I set them to close automatically after 24 hours, because I have having more tabs open than I can track. I explicitly don’t use them as “read later” bookmarks.

You’re subject line is needlessly conflating a community and an instance… This was a community mod action, not a blahaj instance action.

That’s what it felt like to me the first little while.

That’s exactly what we do.

These things (though it’s an old picture)

Cycling always felt like something I should enjoy, but I just never found that spark. I used to ride a lot when I was in the office 5 days a week, but aside from my commute, I never touched the bike.

I discovered my love of running way too late!

Lengualytics is a really good tool for comprehensible input in any language. Basically it’s a collection of comprehensible input videos found and submitted by other users, and ranked according to language, dialect and difficulty level.

I call it what it is. Socialization as a closeted trans person.

Which is to say, it’s a mixture of being socialised as our assigned genders, but it’s also our own internal relationship and interaction with those norms and pressures. And that last part is very different between cis people and trans people.

I’m not saying trans people escape the influence of being socialised according to our assigned genders. I’m saying the way we internalise and respond to those norms, perceptions and pressures differs sufficiently that it should be acknowledged and talked about, not erased and conflated with cis experiences.

but being trans did not make me immune to the harmful behaviours and ideas that are taught to those children perceived as boys.

Absolutely not. But you also didn’t have the same relationship with your upbringing as cis men and boys did, because you dealt with a lifetime of internalised transphobia that made you doubt who you are.

We all absolutely share some similarities with the socialisation of our cis peers, good and bad, but we did not have the same experience as them, and I think that’s an important distinction to make. “Male socialisation” erases those different experiences. But when you don’t conflate the two experiences, you can start to talk about the difference, whilst also acknowledging the commonalities.

You were raised “trans in denial”. That’s not the same thing as being raised as a cis person of your assigned gender, even though it may look like it from the outside.

Nipple pain is part of the hormonal cycle. It happens quickly in cis women and trans women! My nipples hurt within 24 hours of doing an injection, and I’ve been on HRT for near 10 years.

I’m a walking talking transmed ideal. Knew from the time I was a kid. Binary. Crippling dysphoria. I wanted bottom surgery from the moment I knew it existed and I’ve had nearly every transition related surgery possible.

But I’ve got more in common with non binary folk, and trans folk who don’t want surgeries, and don’t struggle with dysphoria than I will ever have in common with a broader society that teaches us to hate ourselves. Gender diverse folk are my peers, and what we have in common is finding self love, self pride, and giving a middle finger to those who would try and take that away from us.

You would benefit from finding some of that pride in finding and accepting who you are despite surviving in a world that tries to deny you that. The answer isn’t to hate yourself more, and to push hatred on to your peers.

The thing you will see with 4chan spaces and transmed spaces is that all of them carry shame for being trans. Some of them hate themselves openly and others don’t openly hate themselves, but even in a perfect, accepting world, would still want to hide who they are. Both of those are just different degrees of the same thing though. And you weren’t born with that internalised shame. You learned it by growing up surrounded by transphobia. Fight back by finding some love for yourself and who you are, instead of agreeing with the people that taught you self hate in the first place

It’s an alternative front end for lemmy. Lots of instances that make alternative front ends available to their users offer it as an option

I had pretty much everything possible done, and from memory, I paid around $30,000 USD all up, but that was nearly 10 years ago, so I have no idea how it compares now

I hate sleep, so I get it over with as quickly as possible. I fall asleep quickly and I wake up quickly and spend as little time as possible in between

I mean, that outfit looks like you stole it from my wardrobe, so it gets the thumbs up from me :)

There are virtually no Ada’s my age. They’re all 30 years younger than me or 30 years older than me. And my birth name was genuinely one of a kind.

I think that sort of thing is worth thinking about, but it’s not something worth giving too much consideration, because you’re the one that has to live with it and other people just don’t care that much.

Not a fork, and not a response to Linus’ comments, but fuck, why let that get in the way of a headline?

That or the fact that a trans person played a supporting role