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        Yeah but the green text said something like: “There is no better food in the world than pancakes”

        It was super specific - twice (green text and white text). Why not “a parent losing their child”?

        You are right to call me out but as a father of a daughter I felt a bit attacked and just thinking about the combination of her and suicide made me not think right. I’m sorry.

      • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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        nah, twitter not the only place.

        try hanging out with a insecure person. they will do this about literally everything you say.

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        It’s very specific (not parents losing children), repeated twice (green and white text). I’m a father of a daughter. The thought of something happening to her made me not think right and write it.

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          First he tells about the “reactions of loved one”, so it covers every kind of loss. Then he goes on about his own perception of what hits HIM the most. It’s subjective, and there could be thousands of reasons why that particular type of relationship affects him harder than other ones. Don’t take it personally.

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              It’s okay, you have a daughter and you felt like someone was underappreciating your love for her I guess. What bothers me is that your comment started a gender war on a post about loss of loved one, but it’s not your fault

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            No, I see it too. I can’t put my finger on it, but “father to son, mother to daughter” stories often have this kind of weird undertone I can’t quite name.

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              Is it like as if the stories want to vanglory (is this the English word) parents as if they were great even though they aren’t perfect?

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                No, maybe its American gender fascism? In my country, media propaganda has an obsession with a certain type of conversation about how men and women should be. Maybe it’s “nuclear family” propaganda? Something like that. It feels something like that. I can’t put my finger on it.

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          I think that is a correct conclusion 👍. When Anon says “a dad losing his son,” my first thought was “oh are we doing the male scarcity mindset that people had throughout history?”

          I can see now that it’s just poetic license to convey “parent losing a child”

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      Nooooo…. It’s the manly love only fathers can feel for their sons. Every other love is tainted, because Femalestm are part of it. Only Anon and his dad can feel this purest form of affection. /s