Before the war: Women live under a religious fanatic regime in peacetime.
During the war: Women live under a religious fanatic regime at wartime. Their children are killed by people pretending to be there to free them.
After the war: Women live under a religious fanatic regime in peacetime. They remember that your country killed their sons.

Don’t force your “help” on others when you can’t actually help. Every colonial power was in Afghanistan. None has won.
Stop the warmongering and fucking let the natives figure out some societal development on their own.