Right now my husband of 15 years is 500km away with his girlfriend of 25 years. And I’m pissed because they’re having sushi and there’s no sushi restaurant around us. I want sushi.
That’s my latest poly story. I don’t mind that he’s having a romantic weekend with another woman (well, I’m happy for them), but I’m jealous of their dinner.

My experience is that there are a lot of people who tell you “how it’s done” and they get very weird about the rules. I understand that comes from their experiences and the general aversion of wanting to not be associated with “poly couple hookup types” you see on Tinder or wherever.

I am poly, but typically just date solo. I’ve joined poly couples as a third, but it’s never really felt right for me; I don’t like hierarchical dating.

My dream relationship is a triad, but my god is that hard to find. I just want my little throuple commune in the woods. :3

If you want a poly relationship that works it has to start poly. It is very common for someone just getting into poly to hurt a nonpoly persons feelings by trying to be “suddenly” poly.