• velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    19 days ago

    I also feel like I’m going to have to settle sometimes and I’d just sooner be alone than do that.

    Don’t settle! Relationships don’t have to last forever to be considered successful in my opinion. You can enjoy sharing your time with someone and appreciate it for what it was when it’s over and that’s still totally ok.

    There’s billions of people in the world. It’s very hard to find another person who is compatible enough to share your life with, but there’s fun and experiences to be had on the journey looking for them.

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      19 days ago

      There is always something lacking in a major way and the odds just aren’t that good anyway. The stats for men in my age range being conservative is like 70% or more.

      This guy that I was just spending time with. Black, well educated aaaaaaaaand conservative, voting red. Our shared hobbies never indicated this either because all of them seemed more like hobbies that those types would avoid. Just what are the odds here?

      I feel so unlucky right now. All I’m asking is for someone who is well educated, takes care of themselves, pulls their weight and has humane views. I’m going to fucking cry because apparently that’s asking for a lot.

      • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        19 days ago

        I’m sorry you’re feeling so hopeless about this. You’re not asking for too much! Sending you a lot of warm thoughts today <3