Are you 200+kg? Does your face look like it’s been cut apart and incorrectly reassembled? Are you grotesquely crippled to the point of needing a full-time care aid?
If not: X Doubt.
For almost all men, the only time in their life that they ever receive flowers is on the day of their funeral.
When men are complimented by a woman, they hold that treasured memory for years, because it might be the only time in their life where a woman other than a direct relative compliments them.
When men date, the average man typically suffers a direct rejection rate of 98% to 100%. Vanishingly few men see a rejection rate of less than 90%. Comparatively speaking, the average woman sees a rejection rate of about 30-35%.
Compared to the average man, you are likely marinating in attention.
Against other women, probably not. And for that alone you have my sympathies. But vs the average man? Absolutely.
Hi, did you notice that you not only completely denied my experience and assumed you knew my life better than me, but you did so on in a community that specifically only allows women and non-binary participation?
No, I did not. All I did was make a comparison. It’s like complaining about a paper cut to a quadruple amputee.
Sure, that metaphorical paper cut stings. I’m not denying that. But even as that metaphorical quadruple amputee I’m not allowed to show my own pain or even mention it - if I did, women everywhere would call me an Incel and tell me to “man up”, even if I had zero responsibility into whatever led to my current state.
So as a man, my only choice is to hide the pain, knuckle under, and force myself to carry on. Making it known in any way whatsoever would only make things worse, so I don’t. I just focus on intrinsic motivation and the things I can actually control, and try to find a little of my own peace in this world.
Because holding a victim mentality is one hell of a nerf. No-one is attracted to that.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support. Please delete this and repost at https://lemmy.world/c/dadforaminute. This is specifically a community for women, and I wish you well in your journey, but it is not the right place for this discussion.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support.
No, I do not. Society - and more specifically, women - have shown how they punish men who show weakness of any kind, and I am not about to intentionally or willingly shoot myself in the foot. I’m done with the psychological abuse, gaslighting, and DARVO attempts.
Chiming in as a woman who gets no attention.
Are you 200+kg? Does your face look like it’s been cut apart and incorrectly reassembled? Are you grotesquely crippled to the point of needing a full-time care aid?
If not: X Doubt.
For almost all men, the only time in their life that they ever receive flowers is on the day of their funeral.
When men are complimented by a woman, they hold that treasured memory for years, because it might be the only time in their life where a woman other than a direct relative compliments them.
When men date, the average man typically suffers a direct rejection rate of 98% to 100%. Vanishingly few men see a rejection rate of less than 90%. Comparatively speaking, the average woman sees a rejection rate of about 30-35%.
Compared to the average man, you are likely marinating in attention.
Against other women, probably not. And for that alone you have my sympathies. But vs the average man? Absolutely.
Hi, did you notice that you not only completely denied my experience and assumed you knew my life better than me, but you did so on in a community that specifically only allows women and non-binary participation?
No, I did not. All I did was make a comparison. It’s like complaining about a paper cut to a quadruple amputee.
Sure, that metaphorical paper cut stings. I’m not denying that. But even as that metaphorical quadruple amputee I’m not allowed to show my own pain or even mention it - if I did, women everywhere would call me an Incel and tell me to “man up”, even if I had zero responsibility into whatever led to my current state.
So as a man, my only choice is to hide the pain, knuckle under, and force myself to carry on. Making it known in any way whatsoever would only make things worse, so I don’t. I just focus on intrinsic motivation and the things I can actually control, and try to find a little of my own peace in this world.
Because holding a victim mentality is one hell of a nerf. No-one is attracted to that.
It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support. Please delete this and repost at https://lemmy.world/c/dadforaminute. This is specifically a community for women, and I wish you well in your journey, but it is not the right place for this discussion.
No, I do not. Society - and more specifically, women - have shown how they punish men who show weakness of any kind, and I am not about to intentionally or willingly shoot myself in the foot. I’m done with the psychological abuse, gaslighting, and DARVO attempts.