• TheparishofChigwell@sh.itjust.works
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    12 days ago

    What a weird take. How is he disrespecting her if she just says I’m not interested it would work the exact same

    Women should chill out a bit I think.

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      The point is that it doesn’t work the exact same if you just say, you’re not interested. Countless women, myself included, have made this experience. “Not interested” is met with “why not?”, " come oooon" “am I that ugly?” and “just give me a chance”. You can either spend 15 minutes saying " no" in varying degrees of politeness or 2 seconds saying “I have a boyfriend”.

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          “Wahhh i walked into a community that didnt cater to me and started shitting on a post about harassment and now i’m being told my behaviour wasn’t good and this community won’t cater to me you are all MEAN and SEXIST”

          Fucking just admit you saw the image, thought it was a shitpost and acted accordingly. Throwing a gigantic tantrum just makes you look like a jackass.

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        It’s always the worst ones that ruin it for everyone.

        Also paradoxically the ones you want approaching you are more cautious about it or don’t approach so they don’t get grouped in with creeps like this. It selects for the people who approach women to be more creepy which makes the whole problem worse…

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
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      The meme literally talks about when men harass women. But women need to chill out?

      Please read the rules for this community.

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          As an aside, telling men “no” does not always work. Sometimes women do need to resort to saying they’re “owned” by another man for men like this to back off. Because ultimately men like this do not see women as people that deserve respect, they view women as objects.

          Just something to think about next time you want to believe all men are good and respectful.

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              If you were aware, you wouldn’t assert that men would take a “no” the same way as “I have a boyfriend”.

              Read through the comments in this thread. There’s quite a good discussion around approaching people with the intent to date.

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                  Read the fucking rules.

                  Rules…

                  Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.