You had a great comment though! I’d been thinking about setting throughout the thread and you just had the comment that was sufficiently thorough for me to feel my comment was the proper response.
And I think everyone in the thread was thinking of this sort of thing happening in the general public or the sort of space where normal social rules apply because that’s most places and where most people do most of their hitting on people and getting hit on. I personally don’t really flirt in such spaces being a polyamorous lesbian.
But also the more I think about it the more I think that some alternative rules spaces are somewhat common at least to have experienced. The big parties that college age people tend to enjoy, certain bars and clubs, festivals… Each of these places have their own rules, and as you say some are increasingly emphasizing consent (good), but often the move isn’t to getting to know each other first, but to “flirt a bit and ask before you start touching.” And in such spaces my biggest advice for people is to watch the mouth and eyes to see if they’re checking you out and if they’re enjoying your chatting them up.
My story took place at a bar night for the leather community, which is probably only second to swingers events in expected forwardness, and it’s the sort of place most people won’t even want to go. But it’s a great example of how much the rules can differ.
You had a great comment though! I’d been thinking about setting throughout the thread and you just had the comment that was sufficiently thorough for me to feel my comment was the proper response.
And I think everyone in the thread was thinking of this sort of thing happening in the general public or the sort of space where normal social rules apply because that’s most places and where most people do most of their hitting on people and getting hit on. I personally don’t really flirt in such spaces being a polyamorous lesbian.
But also the more I think about it the more I think that some alternative rules spaces are somewhat common at least to have experienced. The big parties that college age people tend to enjoy, certain bars and clubs, festivals… Each of these places have their own rules, and as you say some are increasingly emphasizing consent (good), but often the move isn’t to getting to know each other first, but to “flirt a bit and ask before you start touching.” And in such spaces my biggest advice for people is to watch the mouth and eyes to see if they’re checking you out and if they’re enjoying your chatting them up.
My story took place at a bar night for the leather community, which is probably only second to swingers events in expected forwardness, and it’s the sort of place most people won’t even want to go. But it’s a great example of how much the rules can differ.