• RaphaelSchmitz@feddit.org
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    6 days ago

    Because that’s seen as less manly.

    Which is kinda the opposite of ironic, because obviously, manly things are things men like.

    Imagine a man’s reaction to a breakup would be to get into things women like, like exfoliating, trimming your eyebrows, etc. People would probably be like “He’s so much better without her”.

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      6 days ago

      I’ve had more than one woman in my life tell me how gay I am for having an oatmeal exfoliating facewash and moisturizer in my shower. because apparently i’m suppose to use soap only or something.

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        4 days ago

        You always talk about your experience dating and it is crazy to me, I live in a different world. How you are attracting so many incompatible people, it’s so strange. I would be a bad fit for probably 80% of guys my age (like most people, probably)but only the 20% who do sort of fit ever responded to me in any way, or we figured out fast that it wouldn’t work. And when I was younger, I’m sure it was less than that 20%!

        How are you somehow only attracting people who are not attracted to you? Surely your 20% exists, and it seems like the odds of finding one would be pretty good. Like basically - if you just keep the cat picture up, why is it not cat ladies responding?

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          3 days ago

          Because I attract mentally unwell women, that’s why.

          It’s been my entire life, since I was a child. When I was 10 years I had 16 year old girls sexually harass me in the library. I was too innocent to know what was going on and the librarian basically kicked them out because they would not leave me alone after I politely asked them to do so. Then year after year I had some weird crazy woman harassing me or stalking me, on the regular. In high school I had a stalker, in college I had a woman break into my dorm room to leave me love notes, etc.

          When I post my dating profile to reddit years ago, I got many crazy women DMing me. Something about my face just drives them wild and they start projecting their crazy psycho fantasies onto me. Normal women don’t find me attractive, they just think I’m boring. But if she is damaged and not taking her meds, she thinks I’m the hottest guy ever.

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        5 days ago

        Some women are for the patriarchy.

        Sometimes, an “Are you gay” from a woman even is a “why are you not fucking me”; be it subconsciously, or a conscious flirty challenge.

        Sometimes, it’s a “My man would never do anything like that and other man shouldn’t make him look bad in comparison”. Although I guess that’s the patriarchy thing again. Just like red pill podcast pickmes.

        Of course all doesn’t matter, you could be the most effeminate man in the world - as long as you’re attracted to women, there’s no question.

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          5 days ago

          no, they are just judgemental insecure twats of human beings. has nothing to do with anything else.

          if you judge them for their personal hygiene choices they’d freak the fuck out and call you a misogynist, but when they do it, it’s OK because they are ‘progressive’ and ‘woke’.

          i’ve yet to ever meet a ‘anti patriachy’ person who wasn’t just a judgemental jerk who used their ‘feminism’ as an excuse to be a total asshole over petty bullshit about other people’s choices. they are the same as MAGA twats, they just use different words.

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            4 days ago

            Uh, well, I’m anti patriarchy.

            Shouldn’t take my own word that I’m not an asshole of course.

            However, I’m very much “live and let live”, which is exactly why I’m against patriarchy trying to tell me I can’t exfoliate, respect my female coworkers, etc.

            The first thing someone says when meeting someone new usually isn’t “I’m [pro-/anti-] patriarchy.” But every single woman I met where it came up was anti patriarchy. I haven’t met A SINGLE ONE who was for it, and honestly it would be weird.

            Extrapolating here, but I don’t think all women are judgemental jerks who used their ‘feminism’ as an excuse to be a total asshole over petty bullshit about other people’s choices. They just wanna live, man