It’s really easy to say “go to therapy,” but that ignores the realities of accessing it.

It’s not cheap. There’s long waits involved. It’s very likely your first therapist or even first few therapists won’t be a good fit and you’ll need to shop around. Sometimes you get lucky and you find a good fit on the first try. And sometimes you find a hundred bucks in a gutter, too.

I view “get therapy” as a mid-term goal. It’s something that you should be working on but it’s not something that fixes things right now.