Right, so if you are hate people, it’s justified, but if someone else does it, it’s not. Gotcha. And otherwise you’re morally perfect or something and totally inclusive, except when the people you don’t like join you group, then they must be excluded, but it’s not hateful! it’s just so nice to ask people to leave if they don’t fit your ‘vibe’.
Oh what about pedophiles? do you not hate them? or do you have to include them in your D&D group as long as they fit the ‘vibe’?
Haha, I knew you’d latch onto that. No, I don’t exclude people who I “don’t like,” I tell people who are looking for an experience different from how our group plays the game that they will likely have more fun elsewhere. If they want to give it a shot anyway, they can. But yeah, if they’re expecting a D&D game where it’s all combat all the time, they’ll be pretty bored with our political intrigue game. If they try to force it to be something it’s not, we’ll ask them to leave because of that choices they made, so that the game can continue.
You want to call it hate? That’s fine - it is a form of judgement in the end, after all. But still, it’s based on the choices they decided to make, not something they can’t control. The most important thing about being in a group is being responsive to the wants of the members of the group. It’s called having a normal conversation with someone you’re hanging out with, with all the respect that comes with it. I obviously hate pedophiles if they choose to act upon their urges and ruin the life of a child. If they don’t, then I wouldn’t know about it, so I’d have no ability to judge them one way or another.
Responsive doesn’t mean agreeable. But ultimately, if you’re part of a group where most of the members want to hate a certain other group for something they can’t change, and your disagreement isn’t likely to change the dynamics of that group to make them stop being hateful, then as I said earlier, it’s a sign you should leave that group.
Right, so if you are hate people, it’s justified, but if someone else does it, it’s not. Gotcha. And otherwise you’re morally perfect or something and totally inclusive, except when the people you don’t like join you group, then they must be excluded, but it’s not hateful! it’s just so nice to ask people to leave if they don’t fit your ‘vibe’.
Oh what about pedophiles? do you not hate them? or do you have to include them in your D&D group as long as they fit the ‘vibe’?
Haha, I knew you’d latch onto that. No, I don’t exclude people who I “don’t like,” I tell people who are looking for an experience different from how our group plays the game that they will likely have more fun elsewhere. If they want to give it a shot anyway, they can. But yeah, if they’re expecting a D&D game where it’s all combat all the time, they’ll be pretty bored with our political intrigue game. If they try to force it to be something it’s not, we’ll ask them to leave because of that choices they made, so that the game can continue.
You want to call it hate? That’s fine - it is a form of judgement in the end, after all. But still, it’s based on the choices they decided to make, not something they can’t control. The most important thing about being in a group is being responsive to the wants of the members of the group. It’s called having a normal conversation with someone you’re hanging out with, with all the respect that comes with it. I obviously hate pedophiles if they choose to act upon their urges and ruin the life of a child. If they don’t, then I wouldn’t know about it, so I’d have no ability to judge them one way or another.
Right, so if the group decides they hate a certain other group, you better get on board, no?
Responsive doesn’t mean agreeable. But ultimately, if you’re part of a group where most of the members want to hate a certain other group for something they can’t change, and your disagreement isn’t likely to change the dynamics of that group to make them stop being hateful, then as I said earlier, it’s a sign you should leave that group.