My mom did stuff like this but I just attributed it to general forgetfulness. She was the kind of person who would angrily do it herself rather than ask, if no one caught her subliminal messaging.
Admittedly, I forget everything asked of me if I don’t do it right away, so I bought a white board for the fridge. I would do anything and everything listed on the board. She still left shit on the stairs.
There’s a thing called “Ask Culture,” to avoid frustration, and I believe it’s a generational thing. Ask Culture is when you put expectations into words rather than just hoping someone will decypher your intent and anticipate your needs.
My friends and family around my age are much better at putting requests into words while the older generation gets frustrated at us for not reading minds.
Yeah, my mom always thought my dad and brother were being disrespectful by needing to be asked for things, and that never made sense to me. I always found that they’d do stuff if I asked them to, and never felt like they were ignoring stuff on purpose.
My mom did stuff like this but I just attributed it to general forgetfulness. She was the kind of person who would angrily do it herself rather than ask, if no one caught her subliminal messaging.
Admittedly, I forget everything asked of me if I don’t do it right away, so I bought a white board for the fridge. I would do anything and everything listed on the board. She still left shit on the stairs.
There’s a thing called “Ask Culture,” to avoid frustration, and I believe it’s a generational thing. Ask Culture is when you put expectations into words rather than just hoping someone will decypher your intent and anticipate your needs.
My friends and family around my age are much better at putting requests into words while the older generation gets frustrated at us for not reading minds.
Yeah, my mom always thought my dad and brother were being disrespectful by needing to be asked for things, and that never made sense to me. I always found that they’d do stuff if I asked them to, and never felt like they were ignoring stuff on purpose.