“Use a planner!” I have a stack of them! They go unused after 10 days because ADHD.
“Just make a routine!” Great! Done! The moment it gets interrupted it becomes impossible to go back to, because ADHD 😄
“You just need discipline!” My barely-functional life is the result of already more discipline than you can muster on your best day because - you guessed it - ADHD 🙃
It’s the second point there that makes me think I’m not just autistic.
A routine? I’ve never managed to have those. What I do have is having to constantly tell myself to do something. Every. Single. Time. And if it’s interrupted for some reason? Fuck me!
Dentist is a condescending jerk about my not brushing my teeth because it is a constant struggle every morning.
I have a routine that rivals a priest on Easter Sunday.
But the best written homily doesn’t undo the fact that the organist is about to start the prelude and for the life of me, I can’t figure out where those damned communion wafers have gone even though I swear I just saw them!
This sounds like me. I’ve got a spreadsheet I go through daily with sections like “morning routine,” “returning routine,” “essential chores,” “dinner routine,” etc. It’s set up to turn tasks green when I complete them so I get just enough of a dopamine hit to continue. There’s also a dedicated column that’s basically for “you’ve determined this is the optimal way to do this task after countless iterations; stop trying to rethink it and just do it.”
There’s something so comforting about learning other people have the same struggles I do. I’ve had to do the same thing regarding “optimizing” my routine, which is one of my favorite ways to procrastinate.
“Use a planner!” I have a stack of them! They go unused after 10 days because ADHD.
“Just make a routine!” Great! Done! The moment it gets interrupted it becomes impossible to go back to, because ADHD 😄
“You just need discipline!” My barely-functional life is the result of already more discipline than you can muster on your best day because - you guessed it - ADHD 🙃
It’s the second point there that makes me think I’m not just autistic.
A routine? I’ve never managed to have those. What I do have is having to constantly tell myself to do something. Every. Single. Time. And if it’s interrupted for some reason? Fuck me!
Dentist is a condescending jerk about my not brushing my teeth because it is a constant struggle every morning.
I was going to say being susceptible to interruptions isn’t just an ADHD thing but I forget I am AuDHD sometimes lol.
I keep trying to build a good morning routine but then garbage day happens and it’s lost for the week lmao.
AuDHD is a common comorbidity. I am too - it feels like two poorly trained huskies screaming at each other in your brain.
Sending empathetic vibes your way and hope you can get some sort of support/reprieve if you want it 🩵 /gen
I have a routine that rivals a priest on Easter Sunday. But the best written homily doesn’t undo the fact that the organist is about to start the prelude and for the life of me, I can’t figure out where those damned communion wafers have gone even though I swear I just saw them!
100% this. I have routines mapped out so I don’t have to figure everything out again once my mind decides it’s time to let me function for a bit.
This sounds like me. I’ve got a spreadsheet I go through daily with sections like “morning routine,” “returning routine,” “essential chores,” “dinner routine,” etc. It’s set up to turn tasks green when I complete them so I get just enough of a dopamine hit to continue. There’s also a dedicated column that’s basically for “you’ve determined this is the optimal way to do this task after countless iterations; stop trying to rethink it and just do it.”
There’s something so comforting about learning other people have the same struggles I do. I’ve had to do the same thing regarding “optimizing” my routine, which is one of my favorite ways to procrastinate.