Stressed to fuck, very few spaces to meet romanric prospects, those that are are too expensive to go regularly and way too many guys going apeshit redpill.
If starting a family is no longer an imperative but just one possible option, being in relationships and finding a reliable life partner is no longer as vital. If starting a family looks infeasibly expensive to the point that only those willing to make big sacrifices would prioritise it, dating goes from being an essential part of not being an antisocial weirdo to a sort of cargo-cult ritual for those hoping on some level for the white picket fence and 2.4 kids. If you’ve ruled that out, or resigned yourself to not having it, the steady regimen of dates and couplehood milestones can be the next thing to be optimised out.
I always believed that the next thing we would optimise away is reproduction.
My prediction is, in 50 years (or sooner, depending on economics), having a baby naturally will be considered irresponsible, dangerous, and financially ruinous. Maybe even illegal. Instead, we’ll have lab grown people, no messy birthing process, streamlined directly into an optimised education system. No parents, just a series of boarding schools until adulthood. Maybe even they’ll experiment with the best genes for different jobs / castes, go full eugenics, but not for a while. Similar to how bees do it.
If people complain that it’s unethical, they can just point at 0.6 reproduction rates and say it’s necessary, ignoring all the fixable but inconvenient quality of life issues that are keeping that number low. It’ll be presented as a good thing, “solving” human extinction. Of course, there will be pros and cons to this.
The last dating event I tried was after work and it was exhausting for me. I might have connected slightly with a couple of people (maybe?), but I had to get out of there because I was so tired.
I struggle to do normal working hours, I don’t have the stamina. I can’t fathom how people working 38 hour weeks (or unpaid overtime) meet people.
EDIT: Currently off work :P Quit my job, best decision ever. Right now sitting in a chair in the sun, going to have a nap.
Okay, so a good friend of mine thought they were getting super burnt out at work. They’d come home fall asleep on the couch, skip dinner because they were sleeping. Fell behind in their marking (HS Teacher) to the point where the school asked her to take a personal day.
Eventually they go to the doctor, turns out they had a ridiculously low haemoglobin count, i think brought on by low iron. The reason I say this is because if you’re easily tired it could be a sign of a medical problem.
Ty. All is good on the Hb front. Doctors sent me through a lot of tests a few years ago, including that one.
Edit: Long story short, if (like me) you can’t handle normal hours, and, the docs can’t find anything wrong with you, then you get put in the ‘chronic fatigue’ category. This sentences you to a lifetime of random people suggesting you try homeopathic remedies :o
Ha! A bone chilling fate if ever I heard one. ;)
You should in theory (at least to the best of my knowledge) be able to diagnosed with ME/CFS by completing a consecutive maximal exercise test
Try getting bored for a while. No phone/series etc. You’ll find energy soon enough.
I know of at least two couples that met through their local socialist chapters so maybe that’s something for young people to consider
I’m very fortunate to have been incredibly happily married for 21 years. But I read about what it’s like now trying to find people, and observe just what people are like in general, and if my marriage were to end for whatever reason I don’t think I’d even bother trying, to be honest. It sounds like a total shitshow.
I’m a bit younger, but I feel similarly. My partner and I have been fortunate enough to have 12 amazing years together so far, but even if we had problems in the future I think we’d feel extremely motivated to work through them rather than being single again. I’ve talked to my friends who are also in long-term relationships about this and they feel the same.
There is one positive: less STIs.
As an older person, I read the above and I think interacting seems so much more complex now for young people.
