• Banana@sh.itjust.works
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    17 days ago

    I get the idea you’re not even buying what you’re selling here with how defensive you got. I don’t believe that you even believe you’ve never broken a boundary.

    Truly, I don’t give a fuck if you have, because I don’t think fucking up when you’re young makes you a bad person. You asked what else you can do, I said self-reflect. Maybe do that in private for more than 5 minutes. Don’t report back.

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      15 days ago

      I honestly do apologize. Feel free to ignore this since you said don’t report back, but I wanted to reply after some more reflection regardless.

      You’re correct that I don’t believe I’ve broken a boundary, but I also am willing to accept that I’m simply not aware of a boundary I’ve broken. Unfortunately I remain unaware. I hope you understand that I am unable to comment on things I’m not aware of, and for better or for worse that’s simply where I stand right now.

      For whatever it’s worth, if there is some boundary I’ve crossed, I’m sorry for that. I want to emphasize that’s not a “I’m sorry you feel that way” non-apology but a genuine remorse for whatever harm I’ve caused someone. I don’t want to hurt people.

      In addition to the general apology, I want to directly apologize for my closing paragraph about your husband and the suggestion that you had internalized some kind of rationalization for the situation. It was uncalled for.

      I will not be further editing or removing any of my prior comments to cover up statements I regret, as I believe complete context is important for anyone who stumbles across this later.

      Not expecting a reply. I hope you find other interactions more pleasant than this one.