Yeah the person with a darker past can easily be one of those homophobic straight trans people, racist white queer people, misogynistic queer men, or transphobic queer people. I’ve met plenty of them in my time. They typically just accepted that it was wrong for them to be mistreated, and many get weird about their biases against other marginalized groups.
I’ve also met folks who never learned to unpack a bias because they were never worth the social conflict to correct.
And so who do I trust? Nobody, anyone can have a hidden harmful bias. But more realistically, I trust people who do the work and try to be open to criticism when they hurt someone.
It would be really interesting to fully understand what goes through someone’s head when they learn to overcome their biases vs when they refuse. Especially because that knowledge could be used to encourage the former, but also just because I’d be curious to know what people are thinking when they do the latter.
Yeah the person with a darker past can easily be one of those homophobic straight trans people, racist white queer people, misogynistic queer men, or transphobic queer people. I’ve met plenty of them in my time. They typically just accepted that it was wrong for them to be mistreated, and many get weird about their biases against other marginalized groups.
I’ve also met folks who never learned to unpack a bias because they were never worth the social conflict to correct.
And so who do I trust? Nobody, anyone can have a hidden harmful bias. But more realistically, I trust people who do the work and try to be open to criticism when they hurt someone.
It would be really interesting to fully understand what goes through someone’s head when they learn to overcome their biases vs when they refuse. Especially because that knowledge could be used to encourage the former, but also just because I’d be curious to know what people are thinking when they do the latter.