Visited a girl at her home, 3rd date, we got to talking and I shared my trauma of my previous relationship with a borderline girl 10 year prior that fucked me up. She listened and was super supportive. Helped me a lot talking with her about it. But she also said, right after, that she could not date me anymore. Got the ambivalent feeling sharing had helped me move on from some things, but also ruined our chances somehow. I don’t regret it. Just how it is.