I mean if you’re using an app that lets random people message you without you mutually liking them that’s still on you.

Paying for the app doesn’t force match you with people. If women are getting 100s of dudes in their matches it’s because they’re swiping yes on 100s of dudes.

Swiping yes on a hundred dudes and being overwhelmed sounds like a self inflicted problem

You’re allowed to like women and not want to fuck a woman with a penis, just like you’re allowed to not fuck blonde women if that’s what you prefer. It’s not so deep that you need to get all repressed-homosexuality-weird about it.