Nah. There is a mountain of science related to how sex influences practically every part of your nervous system, affecting brain function and in turn, emotional processing.

But I agree with you, it’s not good or bad, cause it’s not my life and people are free to do what they want. I just think people ought to be aware that emotional connection is not an infinite resource before they start giving it away willy nilly.

I’ve had sex with 3 women and rejected sexual advances from 7, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a woman with similar statistics.

Someone might call me an incel for wanting a women with about three bodies but the truth is I’ve remained voluntarily celibate for the vast majority of my single life. I view sex as a big deal and something to be enjoyed only with someone you love. It’s not crazy to want someone with a similar mindset, and if you have 10 bodies you either have too different of a mindset or you’re way way outside my age range.

It’s really ridiculous how extensively I need to spell this out to not get called an incel. People have reasons. We don’t need to jump to conclusions with the least charitable interpretation all the time. Unfortunately it seems like that’s literally the only thing a lot (if not most) people are capable of doing nowadays.

update: the fifth of vodka i drank did not heal my bleeding stomach ulcer

Sure, you CAN do these things. That doesn’t mean it’s not diminishing your capacity to be emotionally invested in your relationships.

We can spend all day blowharding and traversing all the layers of subconscious processes abstracted into social constructs, how we are able to rationalize anything if we want to, and so on. But I think you can only get so far with that, when all I’m trying to describe is something pretty much everyone already understands intuitively.

“You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”

Works with gender/role flipped too, obviously.

I don’t think people caring about body count has anything to do with physical things other than drastically increased odds of STIs and certain cancers.

I think mature adults realize that sex is never just sex, it forms attachments whether you want it or not. Screwing around forming and cutting off attachments constantly kind of fucks with your capacity to emotionally invest in an actual relationship.

That’s not the kind of distraction I mean. I meant more like… having kids to distract yourself from the fact that very soon, you will die, be forgotten, and it will be as if you never existed. Celebrating your promotion to distract yourself from the fact that your life’s work has no greater purpose than enriching yourself. Traveling, seeing the world to distract yourself from the fact that you know practically nothing of the nature of reality or why we exist. Hiking through the forest to distract from the fact that we continue to obliterate the environment. And so on.

We all just exist. What people call living is really just surrounding yourself with adequate distraction from the horror and dread that our level of consciousness exposes us to.

as a jew it’s actually shocking to read the top level comments on this post. practically every one is either dismissing it or subtly anti-semitic. i think i might actually hate it here on lemmy

“You may win $10 million, but that kind of change is no more than skin deep. You would simply continue to act out the same conditioned patterns in more luxurious surroundings.” -Eckhart Tolle

I asked you for a citation dummy

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As programmers I feel we have a duty to the environment to write software that operates efficiently

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To honor your ancestors who made it possible for you to exist? To properly continue the story of your lineage into the future? To learn about the struggles they faced in their time to better prepare yourself for the struggles ahead?

Edit: Dearest downvoters I am going to assume you are extremely white

I doubt that’s really a consideration when you are literally God

I mean that or just pre-calculate it and place the light at the same time you place the stars

I wish I was the type of guy to take someone up on that but I’ve made the decision that I won’t engage in any sexual activity again without love first. And I’ve sworn off dating for the foreseeable future so I’m destined to regress all the way back to being a kissless hugless handholdless eyecontactless virgin

I tried it with my next girlfriend after her. It was fun but I realized I’m not really into kink. I’m not even really that into sex. To me, learning all that was an act of love. I’m currently prioritizing other things now. I’m going to live life for myself now, going back to college in hopes of becoming an engineer. I’ll probably forget relationships unless I’m lucky enough to meet someone very special.

I once dated a goth girl who wanted me to tie her up. I took it seriously and started learning how to do it. Researched the correct type of rope to use, the dangers associated, etc. Went to the hardware store. Built a really simple practice rig so I could practice some knots safely. Learned about which knots were safe where on the body without causing nerve damage, and how to recognize the early signs of nerve damage before the damage becomes permanent. I even got special scissors for cutting rope in an emergency.

I informed her of my progress and that we would be able to indulge in her fantasy soon. (note: I was recently diagnosed with autism) She told me I was being to extra about it and that she didn’t want to do it anymore. I asked her if she’d rather lose feeling in her fingers. Needless to say that was a huge waste of time and effort. Moral of the story is either a) don’t put in energy to these things without knowing it will be matched, or b) when someone says they want to be tied up just buy a roll of sex tape and safety scissors.

Being asocial is not normal and not good