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  • fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneTwitter rule
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    6 days ago

    okay, sure, but i am a trans person and i have independently concluded that i don’t think it’s cool. sure “it’s only deadnaming if you think it’s literally is the thing we’re calling it”, but the human brain doesn’t work like that; if someone has a strong enough response to it (e.g. they suffered trauma from being deadnamed), then they’re going to have that response before they go “oh actually they don’t mean it because it’s directed at a corp”. i don’t think “dunking on elon musk, who has plenty of other shit to dunk on” is really worth doing that to somebody

    (idk why you keep bringing up he didn’t build anything? i know? you don’t need to use the word “deadname” to make that point?)

    and i’m too lazy to check every room i’m in and be like, “hey, is casually pretending like we’re doing this evil shitty thing (that’s actually justified bc we’re dunking on a shithead!!) going to be a trigger for you?” (which, honestly, would still be better than just assuming it’s fine)

    (if it’s not clear, my issue is more with people who literally use the phrase “i’m going to deadname twitter” or “the only time it’s OK to deadname something is twitter” or whatever)

    it’s like… look, there’s a reason we put actual deadnaming content behind a content warning. i’m basically treating it the same way, because even if it is not the literal act of deadnaming a real person, it’s still pretending that something traumatic and evil is a cool and normal thing to do, which i do not fuck with, even in jest


  • i’m not equating the two, i just don’t think it’s worth triggering trans people who have actually been hurt by deadnaming, just to flex on a faceless piece of shit corporation that does not care and is not hurt by it

    (to be clear, this is more about using the literal phrase “i will deadname twitter” than calling x “twitter” itself; for that, see my second point)


  • i feel like we’re in agreement, except for the conclusion we arrived at about it

    i just don’t like it when people act like saying (literally) “i will deadname twitter” will hurt twitter more than the trans people who might have actually been deadnamed. i think it’s a waste to trigger them to act like calling x “twitter” is a slur or smth


  • fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneTwitter rule
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    6 days ago

    going to get on my soapbox about X for a moment for two things

    1. people who say “twitter is the only time i’ll deadname something”, like it’s a statement that fucking matters at anyone at all, when i don’t want deadnaming to EVER be something we’re treating as OK

    2. calling X “twitter” is just cope for people who can’t move off the fucking app and want to pretend like musk didn’t successfully take it over, ruin it, and turn it into a nazi child porn site. call it the shit garbage app that it is, the thing you liked called “twitter” is dead

    not directed at anyone in particular or you, OP, just wanted to get this off my chest


  • i genuinely do not “intuitively understand” this idea. there’s nothing contradictory about being a hoe and a housewife

    can you like, explain this? i really don’t understand how having multiple sexual relationships, specifically, diminishes one’s ability to have emotionally fulfilling relationships. if anything, i might be inclined to think they would have more emotionally fulfilling relationships 💀


  • i think the way you’re describing the process as “screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments” really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn’t really make it a “cut off” relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it

    just because it’s a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you’ve encountered, doesn’t make it a universal truth





  • i have not considered other genders for this thought experiment (mostly due to personal preference)

    but for guys, i think it’s pretty tough to emotionally divorce yourself from the idea that your dick is supposed to completely satisfy your lover, even if it’s a physical trait that has no relation to who you are as a person

    i have a lot of empathy for it. i mean, i am a guy, i’m just trans. but i do get it, on some level




  • lmfao it doesn’t really look like you’re bothered by it really, imo anyways, but it’s such a non-sequitur to point out that you’re cis. i think it probably would have been clearer if you’d just said “as a non-furry”

    respectfully, there are plenty of suburban white folks who are freaks with it (positive) and wouldn’t bat an eye at a bad dragon dildo. you probably could have said “as a vanilla person”, also

    you’re poking fun at it, but i get the feeling you wouldn’t take well to having your own lack of sex knowledge made fun of, so i’ll leave it at that