(Sorry for the off-topic, but this resonated with me a lot in a completely different context. If not wanted, please remove.)

My fiancee is chronically ill and you really notice the friends who “get it” and those who don’t. I’ve had this feeling with some of them and your description hits the nail on the head. As an example: at the moment she really can’t go to social gatherings, the people who get her illness still invite her so she can decide for herself, the ones who don’t get it don’t invite her because “she can’t come anyway”.

(This is not a white cis guy implying that transitioning is like an illness, just that that the behavior of other people to a change in social dynamics reminded me of it.)

I thought Anna, but I think that is not too common in the US. So I think I’m agreeing with this the most 😊

(Just noticed: maybe they are not in the US as well. Even I as a German think US centric online, weird.)