Or all the Chrises (and other men) could refuse work in solidarity, instead of treating this as women’s problem to solve.

Edit: I decided to make a funny web post about it!

I had to go back to your original comment.

So… You give to receive?

And the answer that you just gave (and that I agree with) is . . . yes. We give friendship to get friendship. And yes, that looks different to different people. That is exactly what the OP is saying. If friend A has celebrated friend B’s wedding and babies and anniversaries, etc, but friend B hasn’t celebrated whatever milestones are important to friend A, it doesn’t necessarily mean friend B is a bad person or bad friend. It may just be that they hadn’t thought about celebrations outside of a very particular, traditional mindset.

On seeing this post, we can all ask ourselves, am I celebrating my friends in a way that is meaningful to them? Are they meeting my own emotional needs, or do I need to communicate more clearly to them? Have I even given thought to what my expectations or desires from my friends are?

I guess the disconnect is that I see posts like this as an opportunity for self-reflection and improvement. I still can’t tell from any of your comments what you find disagreeable about it.

I don’t understand your reply. What did I remove from context? The context was the post telling people to remember that our friends may have different life experiences than us and we should be sensitive to their emotional needs and celebrate them for their successes, even if they are on a different life track than us. We all get busy and tend toward self-focus, it’s good to have these kind of reminders.

she just have the wrong friends

This is such a weird response to me. Like people are naturally either good friends or bad ones, instead of flawed humans who tend to be focused on our own loves and experiences. All the OP is doing is reminding people to think outside of their own experiences to improve their relationships. Its not a personal attack, I wish everyone would unruffle their feathers.

She’s not just talking about financial expense, but emotional expense. We generally give friendship to receive friendship. A relationship where one person does all the giving and the other only takes, is considered toxic.

One of my top movies. It’s genuine art, without feeling pretentious.

But I thought Xi said “america is the hottest nation right now” in Trump’s exact inflection?

Welcome. You can go to someone’s profile and “favorite” them. Im not sure if that results in them showing up in your feed, or saves them more like a bookmark.

Great band name.

I highly recommend you read Blueprint for a Revolution by Sroja Popovic. Dude was involved in the Serbian revolution and has advised movements around the world on what works against fascist regimes and what doesn’t. Our hope isn’t in a party, it’s in the people. And violence not only isn’t required for a Revolution, it’s not anywhere near as effective as non-violent resistance.

Underwater

Im just trying to understand it and widen my scope of reference. Im familiar with the term euro-poor, but this made me wonder if there was something particularly relevant about the Dutch that I was missing context for.

Sure but it’s not a term I’ve ever heard used in the US.

What is Dutchpoor? Google is giving it to me as a painting technique.

Rewatched Arrival. Absolute top-tier movie.

Rewatched Girl with all the Gifts. Still like it.

Rewatched Nope. Still like it.

Finally watched Zombieland: Double Tap. I mostly liked the first one. This one had some good jokes throughout, but the story was a dud and there was an unfortunate amount of boomer humor.

Watched the first 15 minutes of Scary Movie. After at least 14 minutes worth of sexual assault and homophobia, I gave that one a miss.

It’s not incels, it’s men with partners.

Sea what you did there

It sounds like you’re experiencing some tough emotions and need support. Please delete this and repost at https://lemmy.world/c/dadforaminute. This is specifically a community for women, and I wish you well in your journey, but it is not the right place for this discussion.

Hi, did you notice that you not only completely denied my experience and assumed you knew my life better than me, but you did so on in a community that specifically only allows women and non-binary participation?

Chiming in as a woman who gets no attention.