I liked OkCupid’s question system, but since that place has become unusable there is no good way of meeting people online without investing considerable effort sifting through discord servers and whatnot. I had high hopes for Matrix, but Matrix turned out to have a fair share of rooms full of really mentally ill people set on evading moderation.

I’m not talking about romantic or sexual dating, that is not the aim. So far I’ve only met one person online who proved to be a consistent friend.

The whole conundrum is so troubling to me that I have started thinking about building a crude matching algorithm and using that for a FLOSS chatting site that doesn’t have pictures, bios, searchable profiles and all that jazz. Just: ‘yes’/‘no’ and 6 pt scale questions. Maybe also a contrast mode to discover radically different people. The biggest obstacle here would be certain legal questions (especially around liability.)

Before I start doing that I want to ask if anyone here knows of a decent site to meet people.

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    it’s surprising that you’re not meeting anyone from hookup platforms – all of my friends were once sniffies hookups that morphed from fuck buddies to platonic friends.

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      I’m not in that scene really. I have a fetlife account but it’s not really going anywhere because my fetish is much bigger on Reddit and I refuse to use Reddit for sexual matters.

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        I refuse to use Reddit for sexual matters.

        VERY smart – the epstein people specifically mentioned reddit as a high priority platform and their “business model” is using sex-based kompromat to control you.

        this is literally out in the open; in writing; and vetted by the federal government – yet people continue using reddit like it’s not true anyways… it’s SO confusing to me.

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          Interesting. Too bad I’m very open about my sexual likes. There is hardly a way of using that as an avenue to blackmail me. My political activity is much more interesting and even that is public.

          Not saying blackmail is fine. It’s crazy though how effective it is against most people. Where in the files is the kompromat thing btw?