I have seen a post that got 15 upvotes that was advertising online sex and asking for people to DM them. I am confident that the moderators will remove it. However, I am disturbed that most of the comments replying to it believed nothing was wrong and actually requested to exchange DMs with this person.

A while ago I saw a post about someone in an online relationship with another person saying they meet over a kink discord server and a majority of the replies were encouraging them and this relationship instead of concern.

After this latest thing I can’t take it anymore. I should have reached my limit after the first thing and I can name several other red flags, but I realized only now that I was becoming accustomed to it.

If a significant portion of this community cannot practice basic cyber safety, especially around sex, then I think this is an unsafe place that creates an environment of encouragement around unsafe online sexual conduct.

This is supposed to be a transfem community and transfems are a minority group especially susceptible to sexual cyber abuse. Nobody here should tolerate the encouragement of unsafe online conduct or engage in it.

    • Seralth@piefed.seralth.comEnglish
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      7 days ago

      Yeah I was under the impression this isn’t a dating site. I don’t seen anything wrong with seaking out sexual partners online. Don’t ick someone else’s yum and all that.

      But also… This isn’t the place? Dating and sex tend to be their own thing for a reason.

      Sexual and sex can be two very different things after all.

      And hey, it’s only over reacting if you don’t have a good reason and hurt someone because you did something you can’t apologize for.

      So if you have a valid reason and are sorry over an action you took and no one got hurt. You can always say sorry and things can move on.

      Never beat yourself up for reacting to something naturally. As long as you self reflect you can always get better and it can help a lot to understand your trauma and move past it.

      You can’t move on if you don’t confront yourself and accept yourself in equal measures. Its work!