As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.
I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.
Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??
I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…
As much as I very much dislike generalizing behavior to gender or any other broad attribute, I do still share similar sentiments with you. I do not feel comfortable around most men, I do not feel safe around most men, and I generally avoid them.
Throughout my life women have been the most supportive, caring, and relatable to me. They have not been the ones to physically abuse me, yell at me, or hurt me in any other way. I do have friends that are men- they are all gay or fall somewhere under the queer umbrella, but even they have left me unsupported in times when I’ve desperately seeked their support. I do understand that my views and feelings are from my personal trauma, and maybe someday I’ll have enough experiences that change my feelings.