I’ve heard plenty of stories of men finally opening up to their partners just for her to leave him because she “lost the spark” or “can’t look at him the same way” or some other shit.
I’m disabled. I can’t tell you how many friendships have ended when I complained about something. Literally anything. Like, the weather. People expect us to be bubbly, happy, cheerful, all the fucking time. It is so godsdamned exhausting.
Stories from whose side? What were the feelings that were discussed? How did the women react and how was that reaction taken by the men? Really not enough to go on here which is why we shouldn’t rely on internet stories to form opinions.
I won’t claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment. You’re presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don’t agree.
I’ll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not “I said something racist and everyone hates me now”. I won’t detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.
Nope, as a woman I can confidently say that your comment is doing the exact same thing. Dismissing an entire topic because you have already formed an opinion about it, and that opinion is “they deserved it.”
Why would you presume what triggers another person or not? You are virtue-signaling. We get it, you are a new age feminist. Old school feminists realized that they need equality. New age want men to suffer. Don’t worry, we suffer. In quiet.
And your questions “feel” exactly like asking “what was she wearing”.
Please, tell us more about how women can do no wrong and why it’s always the men’s fault.
You know as well as anyone else that if someone was relating a story online about a woman getting mistreated by a man, then no one would question it and anyone who did would get called a misogynist for not believing the story.
That’s completely distorting what I said while ignoring the context of the conversation.
It’s not a zero-sum game or a competition. It’s not “only men or women can be victims, but not both.” Men can be victims. That doesn’t contradict the fact that women can be victims too.
The difference is that you’re here specifically to invalidate and discredit the things men are saying about their own experiences, in a thread about men not opening up about their experiences, after men commented saying that they get invalidated any time they open up about their experiences.
You’re proving their points quite thoroughly. Way to go.
Man, you’ve gotta find yourself someone who will listen. Wife and I do “check-ins” 2 or 3 times a week. A chance to talk about what we’re focusing on our worried about. It helps a lot, both ways.
That’s because men are rarely listened to.
I’ve heard plenty of stories of men finally opening up to their partners just for her to leave him because she “lost the spark” or “can’t look at him the same way” or some other shit.
I’m disabled. I can’t tell you how many friendships have ended when I complained about something. Literally anything. Like, the weather. People expect us to be bubbly, happy, cheerful, all the fucking time. It is so godsdamned exhausting.
Stories from whose side? What were the feelings that were discussed? How did the women react and how was that reaction taken by the men? Really not enough to go on here which is why we shouldn’t rely on internet stories to form opinions.
I won’t claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment. You’re presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don’t agree.
I’ll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not “I said something racist and everyone hates me now”. I won’t detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.
You already know you shouldn’t be making that comparison. How awful.
Nope, as a woman I can confidently say that your comment is doing the exact same thing. Dismissing an entire topic because you have already formed an opinion about it, and that opinion is “they deserved it.”
Yeah ok lol
Why would you presume what triggers another person or not? You are virtue-signaling. We get it, you are a new age feminist. Old school feminists realized that they need equality. New age want men to suffer. Don’t worry, we suffer. In quiet. And your questions “feel” exactly like asking “what was she wearing”.
lol
Bullshit
Please, tell us more about how women can do no wrong and why it’s always the men’s fault.
You know as well as anyone else that if someone was relating a story online about a woman getting mistreated by a man, then no one would question it and anyone who did would get called a misogynist for not believing the story.
You’re right men are the real victims lmfao
That’s completely distorting what I said while ignoring the context of the conversation.
It’s not a zero-sum game or a competition. It’s not “only men or women can be victims, but not both.” Men can be victims. That doesn’t contradict the fact that women can be victims too.
The difference is that you’re here specifically to invalidate and discredit the things men are saying about their own experiences, in a thread about men not opening up about their experiences, after men commented saying that they get invalidated any time they open up about their experiences.
You’re proving their points quite thoroughly. Way to go.
This happened to me personally. I opened up exactly once, her temperament changed immediately and we broke up less than a month later.
Damn dude You should stop doing that opening up thingy Suck it up like a real man
Your first comment here showed you’re not here in good faith. Not engaging.
You’re literally engaging now 😃
Man, you’ve gotta find yourself someone who will listen. Wife and I do “check-ins” 2 or 3 times a week. A chance to talk about what we’re focusing on our worried about. It helps a lot, both ways.
I’m not saying it’s not possible, but it’s rare. And your spouse/partner is only one person. Daily non romantic interactions also count.
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Thanks for proving their point!
y’all never have anything interesting to say lol
Not to mention the whining man is clearly being listened to and empathized with by all of you. That actually proves my point.
Gee, I wonder why men never open up to you 🙄
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Whiniy little pissbaby lol
You’re a bad person.
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