I still have my penis and intend to keep it. I enjoy the lead up and topping, but I find that I still get a lot of dysphoria as I get closer to climaxing. It makes it essentially impossible for me to orgasm while topping, to say nothing of how uncomfortable the dysphoria is.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could make myself feel more feminine in those moments? I haven’t really tried wearing anything since I prefer to just be naked, but I guess I could try that. I guess I’m more looking for advice on how to feel like a woman topping instead of feeling like a man topping.
Okay, I’m probably deleting this tomorrow, but um, this is relatable. I need a lot of verbal affirmation from my partner during, I guess. I had an ex a long time ago who just expected me to “be a man” in bed, and it’s a night-and-day difference from my wife who makes me feel like a beautiful goddess, even though it’s technically the same act.
I know the normative social messaging is that men do the penetrating and women get penetrated, but there’s a lot of feminine power in topping. A woman top is fierce, knows what she wants, and has the compassion in her heart to make her partner feel really good.
Also, watch the pegging episode of the sitcom Broad City lol. I love that show for normalizing it.