Love those ideas! Lycra shorts + old band tees/tanks are great when I go jogging.

Thinking about what works with my linen and hiking shorts, I think it’s the high waist and the wide leg so it’s still leggy (but like 75% leg instead of 90%), but creates an hourglass shape around the hips.

Cutoffs tend to be really form-fitting, so maybe I need to find a pair of denim shorts with a wide leg. Maybe I’ll still look like a camp counselor after that, but screw it. Goth camp counselor. 🐈‍⬛ ⛺

I envy everyone who can pull them off haha. Short inseams look…off on me? Summer’s rough for me because short shorts make my hips look narrower and I’m also like 90% leg because of my height.

I think I look really good in hiking shorts and high-waisted linen shorts, but moreso in a camp counselor kind of way, and I also wanna pull off an alt look too without boiling in jeans. Someday I’ll figure it out!

Some really good advice I was given a long time ago was to tell the stylist not to take eyebrow hair off from the top, only the bottom. This will force the stylist to give you a more feminine arch instead of a subtle touch-up. When stylists wax cis guys’ eyebrows, they’re basically just getting rid of asymmetries off the top and sides and keeping it natural. Sometimes I’m also direct and say I’d like an arch. There’s a lot of eyebrow theory with confusing diagrams and geometry, but usually just saying those things gets me the results I want.

I wish someone had told me this since way back when, but you don’t have to box yourself into services designated “for men” while in the closet, and you’re not an intruder. I’m sure most of the clientele are cis women and out trans women, but brow-waxing services aren’t inherently women-only and you’re allowed to to make a regular eyebrow appointment without outing yourself. When beauticians specifically market their services for men, they have expertise that isn’t really applicable to you and they go in with certain expectations about what styles their clients want, which you experienced. It sounds like this stylist isn’t a good fit, and a regular aesthetician might be more receptive to what you want. And you deserve the brow shape you want.

I go to a stylist where it’s just a small studio in some shared office space, so it’s just you and the stylist and not a room full of other people, so that might be an option if you’re worried about other people. But most people are wrapped up in their own little worlds and aren’t gawking at strangers, and it gets easier the more you do it.

I’m hoping the new Deck prices are due to a small production run, and that the Steam Machine will have economies of scale to bring the price down at least a little.

It’ll be at least $1,000 now for sure, though. I doubt it’ll be more than $1,500 because the more powerful base model Framework Desktop is that price. I’m just really hoping Valve doesn’t seriously delay shipment or announce price hikes for the many people who won’t be able to afford it on launch. Having to wait over a year for a Steam Deck due to their preorder system was painful.

Okay, I’m probably deleting this tomorrow, but um, this is relatable. I need a lot of verbal affirmation from my partner during, I guess. I had an ex a long time ago who just expected me to “be a man” in bed, and it’s a night-and-day difference from my wife who makes me feel like a beautiful goddess, even though it’s technically the same act.

I know the normative social messaging is that men do the penetrating and women get penetrated, but there’s a lot of feminine power in topping. A woman top is fierce, knows what she wants, and has the compassion in her heart to make her partner feel really good.

Also, watch the pegging episode of the sitcom Broad City lol. I love that show for normalizing it.

My wife deals with this too. (She asked me to write a comment, so I have permission.) Her phimosis got worse after HRT and it’s basically completely stuck where it is now, which (without going into detail) makes sex complicated since she’s not a top. It’s a struggle for her and we’re not sure what to do about it, so you’re not alone.

I feel this. I started buying more simple black and other drab-colored clothing this year without immediately putting two and two together that it was because I don’t feel safe in the country I live in anymore.

Your new style works really well for you too! It just shouldn’t have to be this way. It should be our choice without having to worry about how others will react.