I remember going to relationship counselling, and literally in the first session the counselor went into very - carefully - spoken - professional mode and said that they were unable to help us while that sort of thing was going on.
I was surprised, because I didn’t think any of it was that bad, and certainly not a patch on my previous bad relationship.
I’m sorry you were in that situation and congrats on getting out!
That was a really responsible counselor. It’s very dangerous to attend therapy or counseling with abusive partners because they end up learning new ways of manipulating their victims.
I only started to realize the situation I was in after I had my kid. Having the perspective of seeing how I was treated through their eyes helped me finally leave. I’ve never been happier :)
Yeah, that was definitely one of the final nails in the coffin, looking back.
Well done to you, too - getting through that sort of emotional meatgrinder is harder than most people think. I hope you and your sprog are doing well now :-)
That’s very true. They also don’t seem very extreme when you’re inside of the abusive relationship. A lot of these get normalized.
I remember going to relationship counselling, and literally in the first session the counselor went into very - carefully - spoken - professional mode and said that they were unable to help us while that sort of thing was going on.
I was surprised, because I didn’t think any of it was that bad, and certainly not a patch on my previous bad relationship.
I’m sorry you were in that situation and congrats on getting out!
That was a really responsible counselor. It’s very dangerous to attend therapy or counseling with abusive partners because they end up learning new ways of manipulating their victims.
I only started to realize the situation I was in after I had my kid. Having the perspective of seeing how I was treated through their eyes helped me finally leave. I’ve never been happier :)
Yeah, that was definitely one of the final nails in the coffin, looking back.
Well done to you, too - getting through that sort of emotional meatgrinder is harder than most people think. I hope you and your sprog are doing well now :-)