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Screenshot of a Tumblr post by nongunktional:
when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
Genuinely, who keeps posting shit like this on here? I keep seeing posts such as this one and it’s honestly pushing me away from Lemmy. Why spend time on a platform that hates me? If being a man who didn’t date (because of social anxiety, btw, not that you’d care, since clearly men are by default fascists, according to some comments here) is a sin, let us know on the front page, so that me and others like myself can avoid this place.
A lot of comments are, thankfully, calling this shitty behaviour out. But then I look at the post itself, which has 696 upvotes and 166 downvotes, and I’m like… I’m not wanted here.
This platform’s demographic is overwhelmingly men who are enthusiastic about tech… not exactly a population known for being a bunch of Casanovas.
Kinda feels like you are taking a post originally made on a different platform kinda personal. Judging by some of the comments there are plenty of dudes who don’t date because of social anxiety, and there seems to be some regurgitating incel propaganda.
Maybe the OG poster shouldn’t speak in absolutes, however I think it’s a reasonable criticism as a lot of the ideology surrounding “male loneliness” was created/utilized by right winged influencers to grow their viewership.
If someone said “lemmy users with the word ‘empire’ in their name are unworthy of love and need to get gud at dating.” I think you might take their words a little personal even if the post wasn’t literally directly targeted at you.
Lol, nah I don’t really take generalities personally, that’s why they’re called generalities.
Why get upset at something that isn’t specifically addressed to me and doesn’t even make any sense?
Racism is almost always generalities, that aren’t addressed to an individual person. Why does anyone get upset at racism?