Big reason why I try to report and shutdown blatantly misandrist shit I see in leftist spaces. It’s not clever, it’s not funny, maybe it feels good for the person saying it but there is no difference in my eyes between a misandrist and a misogynist. Putting people down based upon intrinsic characteristics they cannot change is the exact kind of behavior done by conservatives.
misandry doesnt exist for the same reason reverse racism doesnt exist. there is no system of oppression against men, there is no system of oppression against white people. and all misogyny/racism is inherently systemic.
you are confusing a personal prejudice caused by systemic mistreatment with systemic mistreatment. it is an important distinction to make.
men hating women is misogyny because men have societal power over women. women hating men due to discrimination theyve faced is just them hating their oppressors. when men receive lower salaries than women, have lower rights than women, have their bodies policed like women, are treated like objects and property like women, and are raped and murdered like women, then we can say that misandry is a real thing.
not everything is for you, not everything is about you. you can acknowledge that things and behaviors are bad without pretending they are systems of oppression. if you would prefer to quote a dictionary than actually educate yourself then thats fine, but it doesnt make it any more real.
“you being more offended by the mere implication that some of your peers can be bad than by the harm that they actually cause makes you part of the problem”
This is some LilyOrchard double standard typeshit… is that you Lily?
All your arguments hinge on broad generalizations and so they can be dismissed offhand. You make the mistake of thinking that if Group A has majority power vs Group B, then that means they have absolute power. You completely diminish and cut down any power or leverage that Group B has. Basically doing learned helplessness to justify prejudice. You ignore any cases where your assumption doesn’t hold true or use those instances to justify “well it’s okay if they do it back!”, completely negating your whole point that “doing that thing is bad”.
if you think that the systemic oppression of women as people for the benefit of men is in any way shape or form comparable to “this girl was mean to me this one time”, you are a lost cause.
the idea of “misandry” has always been weaponized against women in a misogynistic way by denying them even the ability to express anger at their oppression. women who “hate men” would not hate men if men did not systemically oppress them in every aspect of life. you can say “misandry is real its just not systemic” if you want, but its like saying “all lives matter” has a meaning outside of its use as a racist dogwhistle. not a very serious take. additionally, you cant say that while also comparing it to misogyny, which is systemic.
gender essentialism and bioessentialism are bad, we all agree on this! we dont have to silence women talking about actual issues and experiences in order to do so.
if you are a man and you feel the need to say how misandry totally is a real problem, you have to remember first that you are benefiting from patriarchy right now whether you like it or not
like i said to begin with, the line of reasoning that misandry exists is the same line of reasoning that is used to say reverse racism exists. and last i checked we all know that isnt the case.
I strongly encourage you to strive for more precise language. If observers regularly make the same rhetorical rebuttals to your statements, that’s a signal that you should seek a clearer phrasing.
When you say something like “misandry isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be racist towards whites”, it’s very easy for someone not already familiar with modern usage to hear “[hating men because they’re men] isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be [racially biased against] whites”, even if you meant “[sexist oppression of men] isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be [systematically advantaged over] whites.” And then we all get to waste time arguing over the precise meaning of words while those in favor of oppression gleefully watch.
Likely every white guy you’ve ever met has a first or second had experience of being presumed dangerous because they’re a man or being presumed a bigot because of their skin color. These presumptions are often soft and quickly discarded, and they certainly aren’t a big a problem as rape-culture or the school-to-prison pipeline, but just because the wrongs are lesser does not mean they don’t exist.
Big reason why I try to report and shutdown blatantly misandrist shit I see in leftist spaces. It’s not clever, it’s not funny, maybe it feels good for the person saying it but there is no difference in my eyes between a misandrist and a misogynist. Putting people down based upon intrinsic characteristics they cannot change is the exact kind of behavior done by conservatives.
You can hold everything that is in this post true to your heart and still understand the very real fact that misandry doesn’t exist.
changing the defenition of misandry is just as bullshit as changing the definition of antisemitism to include critism of isreal.
misandry doesnt exist for the same reason reverse racism doesnt exist. there is no system of oppression against men, there is no system of oppression against white people. and all misogyny/racism is inherently systemic.
you are confusing a personal prejudice caused by systemic mistreatment with systemic mistreatment. it is an important distinction to make.
men hating women is misogyny because men have societal power over women. women hating men due to discrimination theyve faced is just them hating their oppressors. when men receive lower salaries than women, have lower rights than women, have their bodies policed like women, are treated like objects and property like women, and are raped and murdered like women, then we can say that misandry is a real thing.
not everything is for you, not everything is about you. you can acknowledge that things and behaviors are bad without pretending they are systems of oppression. if you would prefer to quote a dictionary than actually educate yourself then thats fine, but it doesnt make it any more real.
“you being more offended by the mere implication that some of your peers can be bad than by the harm that they actually cause makes you part of the problem”
This is some LilyOrchard double standard typeshit… is that you Lily?
All your arguments hinge on broad generalizations and so they can be dismissed offhand. You make the mistake of thinking that if Group A has majority power vs Group B, then that means they have absolute power. You completely diminish and cut down any power or leverage that Group B has. Basically doing learned helplessness to justify prejudice. You ignore any cases where your assumption doesn’t hold true or use those instances to justify “well it’s okay if they do it back!”, completely negating your whole point that “doing that thing is bad”.
this is,,,, this is just a “misogyny isnt systemic” argument
broad generalizations such as “men have systemic power over women” and “men get paid more than women”
next will you say black people can be racist towards white people?
If you think that only white straight men have a monopoly on bigotry and hate, you are a lost cause.
if you think that the systemic oppression of women as people for the benefit of men is in any way shape or form comparable to “this girl was mean to me this one time”, you are a lost cause.
the idea of “misandry” has always been weaponized against women in a misogynistic way by denying them even the ability to express anger at their oppression. women who “hate men” would not hate men if men did not systemically oppress them in every aspect of life. you can say “misandry is real its just not systemic” if you want, but its like saying “all lives matter” has a meaning outside of its use as a racist dogwhistle. not a very serious take. additionally, you cant say that while also comparing it to misogyny, which is systemic.
gender essentialism and bioessentialism are bad, we all agree on this! we dont have to silence women talking about actual issues and experiences in order to do so.
if you are a man and you feel the need to say how misandry totally is a real problem, you have to remember first that you are benefiting from patriarchy right now whether you like it or not
like i said to begin with, the line of reasoning that misandry exists is the same line of reasoning that is used to say reverse racism exists. and last i checked we all know that isnt the case.
I strongly encourage you to strive for more precise language. If observers regularly make the same rhetorical rebuttals to your statements, that’s a signal that you should seek a clearer phrasing.
When you say something like “misandry isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be racist towards whites”, it’s very easy for someone not already familiar with modern usage to hear “[hating men because they’re men] isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be [racially biased against] whites”, even if you meant “[sexist oppression of men] isn’t a thing” or “blacks can’t be [systematically advantaged over] whites.” And then we all get to waste time arguing over the precise meaning of words while those in favor of oppression gleefully watch.
Likely every white guy you’ve ever met has a first or second had experience of being presumed dangerous because they’re a man or being presumed a bigot because of their skin color. These presumptions are often soft and quickly discarded, and they certainly aren’t a big a problem as rape-culture or the school-to-prison pipeline, but just because the wrongs are lesser does not mean they don’t exist.