I’m in a relationship that for much of its duration was quasi-open. (COVID-19 put a bit of a crimp into the open parts, and SO and i have settled into something that is de facto monogamous, but not by inclination, more by practicality.) And yes, it’s really hard to get other people to accept that. The notion that people can love and have relationships outside of a state- or religion-sanctioned relationship baffles people.
Definitely establish that boundary. Make it clear and ideally find someone who shares your standards, not just “accepts” them. You need someone who bellyfeels what you feel.
I’m in a relationship that for much of its duration was quasi-open. (COVID-19 put a bit of a crimp into the open parts, and SO and i have settled into something that is de facto monogamous, but not by inclination, more by practicality.) And yes, it’s really hard to get other people to accept that. The notion that people can love and have relationships outside of a state- or religion-sanctioned relationship baffles people.
Definitely establish that boundary. Make it clear and ideally find someone who shares your standards, not just “accepts” them. You need someone who bellyfeels what you feel.