• Beth@piefed.social
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    5 days ago

    Single for a couple years now. I don’t think I ever had a good partner so I guess I don’t know if I’m missing out.

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    10 days ago

    Gosh, it’s so difficult sometimes, isn’t it?

    I was stuck in a relationship for 15 years. 15!! The amount of cope and sunk cost fallacy I engaged with is astonishing looking back at it.

    Once I could finally break free, it was hard to believe how GOOD life was!

    The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is right now.

    • pooberbee (she/her)@lemmy.ml
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      10 days ago

      Fifteen for me, too. I really need to know that life will be good because right now it’s bad and i don’t want to keep going

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        10 days ago

        It really does get better. I promise you that it does get better. Sometimes it has to get darker before it gets lighter, but the sun always rises. You matter and you deserve love.

        Even though I knew deep down I had to leave my ex-husband, it felt very surreal and difficult to stay on that path until I was finally out for good. But holy shit life felt so much easier when I did. I was super poor, a single mom, and living out of my friend’s spare bedroom. It was still so much better.

        You are loved. You matter.

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            10 days ago

            Difficult relationships are difficult regardless of the specifics. You’re always welcome to vent and seek advice here <3

      • JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        8 days ago

        I did 11 in an abusive marriage. It really does get so much better. 🫂

        There’s a lot of work to do with unpacking and healing, and the path will have rough spots, but give yourself space and grace and have patience with yourself.

      • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        8 days ago

        Fortunately I was only in my bad relationship for four years, but now that i’ve been out of it for a couple years I can confidently say that it does get better ❤️

        Unfortunately it takes time

  • arcine@jlai.lu
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    9 days ago

    This makes those shitty boyfriends look way cooler than they deserve 😅

    • GalacticSushi@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      7 days ago

      Yeah this meme demands an incredible suspension of disbelief. Dating a dragon would be so incredibly hot that no amount of toxicity could make it not worth it.

      The giant hoard of gold certainly doesn’t hurt the situation either.