cross-posted from: https://piefed.social/c/[email protected]/p/2292202/the-taboo-experience-of-motherhood-regret-abc-news
Most of the women Ms Reed spoke to talked about loving their children “endlessly”, she says, and felt they could perform as mother.
Belle says after marrying her husband, who she has since separated from, having a child felt like the next logical step in life.
“I was in a very heteronormative kind of situation.”
But she says parenting challenges her in ways she didn’t expect.
“[My daughter] was probably about two or three where I first just kind of went, ‘I don’t understand what I need to do to help you understand the lesson I’m trying to teach you.’”
Belle says her husband wasn’t present as a father and the bulk of the caring sat with her.
“It was all on me,” she says.
"Which created this kind of really strong, tight bond, or almost dependency between her and I.
“I do love her. I do find her really challenging … I describe it as she’s always a step ahead of me.”
Belle says there are still days she just wants to “quit parenting”.
“The crazy all-in screaming tantrums, thumping around in her bedroom. I’m out … quitting parenting at that moment.”
Yes, I agree. That’s why I brought the post here in womensstuff. I find that childfree communities tend to use testimonies like this to bash mothers more often than not.
I don’t have a very positive outlook on any communities that base themselves around hating others.
Yeah, for me this is one area where “both sides” are actually a thing. The people that adopt ‘childfree’ as a label and identity are just as bad as the people that try to push parenthood onto everyone.
As someone child free and quite happy about that, I don’t need to make it my religion or make hating children and other people’s choices a part of it.