I tend to overthink such things cause it feels like a fun pile of contradictions I’m running on. I don’t mind my AGAB unless people feel the need to drop me into constraints of it. And generally, it’s the gender stereotypes itself that I have problems with - I think the world would be a simpler and better place without them.
But then, if I mentally denounce the existence of gender in my head, trans from where to where, hehe, it’s about genders, right? ^^’
People with what I call “legacy” understanding of gender (bigoted, or simply not caring/uninformed) could find this contradictory but I don’t see any discrepancy between your physical presentation and description: you look way too androgynous to be binary. I wouldn’t use the word “husk” myself but I won’t stop you: self-deprecation can be part of your goth identity, catharsis or proud oblivion to judgement. The AGAB comment was a rhetorical question, just pointing out that you can also claim a trans identity without contradicting your current one. Not that it matters, I don’t think this community would mind “exteenally affirming” posts from cis people (like me, probably) if they’re genuine and not obtrusive (e.g. patronizing).
I tend to overthink such things cause it feels like a fun pile of contradictions I’m running on. I don’t mind my AGAB unless people feel the need to drop me into constraints of it. And generally, it’s the gender stereotypes itself that I have problems with - I think the world would be a simpler and better place without them.
But then, if I mentally denounce the existence of gender in my head, trans from where to where, hehe, it’s about genders, right? ^^’
People with what I call “legacy” understanding of gender (bigoted, or simply not caring/uninformed) could find this contradictory but I don’t see any discrepancy between your physical presentation and description: you look way too androgynous to be binary. I wouldn’t use the word “husk” myself but I won’t stop you: self-deprecation can be part of your goth identity, catharsis or proud oblivion to judgement. The AGAB comment was a rhetorical question, just pointing out that you can also claim a trans identity without contradicting your current one. Not that it matters, I don’t think this community would mind “exteenally affirming” posts from cis people (like me, probably) if they’re genuine and not obtrusive (e.g. patronizing).