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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I imagine it’s a replacement for a bachelor/bachelorette party.

    I had that and a wedding, but no gifts were expected at either. The reason we did that is because a traditional wedding tends to be very planned and formal with not enough time to just hang out. We wanted the traditional wedding pictures and ceremony, but we had family and friends coming in from around the world just for a few days so we had a few events to see people as much as possible. I think it was well received, but again, no gifts were expected. We didn’t post a registry and told people that we just wanted them to make it.




  • Gotcha. If you have any experience interacting with groups that would have a chapter in most metro areas, feel free to let me know. Where I’m from originally we had some really active groups, but since moving to my current city I’m having difficulty finding something that seems to make a difference. I’d like to do mutual aid focused stuff rather than more mainstream charity work, but the charity work tends to be more impactful.


  • Does your group have chapters? If so, can I ask what group it is? I’ve had difficulty finding a mutual aid group that has a real impact. They do things, but the lack of structure and organization makes it seem functionally useless. The people are all pretty cool, but it mostly feels like a waste of time.