I remember going to relationship counselling, and literally in the first session the counselor went into very - carefully - spoken - professional mode and said that they were unable to help us while that sort of thing was going on.
I was surprised, because I didn’t think any of it was that bad, and certainly not a patch on my previous bad relationship.
I’m sorry you were in that situation and congrats on getting out!
That was a really responsible counselor. It’s very dangerous to attend therapy or counseling with abusive partners because they end up learning new ways of manipulating their victims.
I only started to realize the situation I was in after I had my kid. Having the perspective of seeing how I was treated through their eyes helped me finally leave. I’ve never been happier :)
Yeah, that was definitely one of the final nails in the coffin, looking back.
Well done to you, too - getting through that sort of emotional meatgrinder is harder than most people think. I hope you and your sprog are doing well now :-)
Many of those seem quite extreme to me…
That’s very true. They also don’t seem very extreme when you’re inside of the abusive relationship. A lot of these get normalized.
I remember going to relationship counselling, and literally in the first session the counselor went into very - carefully - spoken - professional mode and said that they were unable to help us while that sort of thing was going on.
I was surprised, because I didn’t think any of it was that bad, and certainly not a patch on my previous bad relationship.
I’m sorry you were in that situation and congrats on getting out!
That was a really responsible counselor. It’s very dangerous to attend therapy or counseling with abusive partners because they end up learning new ways of manipulating their victims.
I only started to realize the situation I was in after I had my kid. Having the perspective of seeing how I was treated through their eyes helped me finally leave. I’ve never been happier :)
Yeah, that was definitely one of the final nails in the coffin, looking back.
Well done to you, too - getting through that sort of emotional meatgrinder is harder than most people think. I hope you and your sprog are doing well now :-)
It gets worse :( this is why us older ladies try to warn the younger ones so hard. Though it really applies to both genders
They don’t start that bad in the beginning. It ramps up gradually.