• Oka@sopuli.xyz
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    24 days ago

    In 30 years, all my crushes and relationships began as an aesthetic attraction. I very recently found the person who I believe to be my life partner, and this attraction was different. It was a deep connection beyond physical form. I fell in love with the person controlling the vehicle.

    Im non-religious, non spiritual, but this connection feels akin to a “soulmate”. Their words for it was “twin flame”. We both felt it, we both found “the one”.

    I never thought I’d experience that. I thought relationships were always superficial and temporary. It was completely unexpected.

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      24 days ago

      I would maintain that the person is the vehicle. We are inseperable from our bodies - to love a person is to love a body.

      My partner and i both intended to spend the rest of our lives together - 9 years so far. Like ~70% of my relationships, it started as an everything attraction - body, style, behaviour, thoughts, ethics, the whole shebang. I’ve had a few relationships where mostly i just thought the other person was hot, but even then we shared something - values, outlooks, hobbies.

      “Twin Flame” is an awkward term - it’s very closely tied to an abusive, controlling cult. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twin_Flames_Universe

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        23 days ago

        I hear you, and I respect that opinion. Im not spiritual myself and avoid cults (religion and MLMs included) like the plague. I know what my partner means though lol theyre open minded