Hey everyone! Ive been missing yall for a while, and without going into too much i havent had great access to my wardrobe or the ability to wear it.
Anyways, in other news, due to a supremely nightmarish interaction with police, i am now out to the entire state of oregon! All the worst people i was most afraid of knowing now know! Yayyy 🙃
Plus some deeply personal and intrusive questions, like:
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What genital were you born with? Have you had any surgeries? Any plans to have surgery? Mtf or ftm? Safe around other men or no? How long hrt? When start, what take, how much dose? And other extremely intimate questions like these
It was a mortifying, nightmare fuel experience. I survived though, with some more traumas but oh well, therapists are eatin good lol.
Just venting honestly, to others who would understand. ❤️❤️
Hows everyones week so far?!
Also, fuck the police, dont ever talk to cops 🏳️🌈
So sorry to hear this part, sister! But I also have to ask: how safe or unsafe is Oregon for trans women in general? I live in CA, but I am fascinated with OR, both its beauty and certain specialties that are available only there. Maps by Erin In The Morning show OR as being among the safest states, just like CA - but from your (apparently) horrible experience, I now have to wonder if maybe that assessment is inaccurate?
I am a professional telecom engineer, and I am a co-founder of a non-profit organization that seeks to build a new non-profit cellular phone network based on retro 2G technology - see the Retro Mobile Phones community I recently started in the Fediverse. Oregon is at the top of the list of locations we are after, because it has significant spectrum vacancies (portions of GSM-compatible radio spectrum that aren’t already claimed and taken by some big company) and it appears to be a safe and friendly state, as opposed to Ohio, Oklahoma, Texas etc - other states in which similar spectrum vacancies exist. But in light of your posted experience I am now worried - hence I would like some further clarification.
My partner and I did travel to Oregon last November for exploration: we arrived in Eugene by Amtrak train (I avoid flying as much as possible), then rented a car and drove out east to explore some of those spectrum vacancy areas. We didn’t have any negative interactions, and we absolutely loved McKenzie river - but perhaps we were just lucky?
Oregon IS very friendly, probly one of if not the friendliest states in the country. Cops suck everywhere all the time always. Theyre high school bullies on power trips, i wouldnt expect any different anywhere.
This isnt the whole story of what happened to me, or even most of it. I may or may not make a post about it when its time, but for right now its still ongoing in a way
Of course, this part is a given, it’s in the very nature of their institution - but the exact level of danger faced by a trans woman in such encounters will probably be quite different from one jurisdiction to another.
Decades ago post-op trans women were 100% safe: in 1980s, 1990s etc if you had female genitalia between your legs, no one would ever stuff you into a men’s jail or prison. It didn’t matter if those female parts were there from birth or if they were constructed in surgery - female parts between legs meant women’s jail or prison. You were likewise guaranteed female ID documents if you were post-op. But today’s evildoers have scooped to lows that never previously existed in all of human history, treating post-op trans women as male and stuffing 100% anatomical females into men’s institutions.
I am a post-op trans woman. I got my SRS primarily in the hope that it would make me safe - but now it is still not enough. Hence I am asking how it is in Oregon: are they Trump-level evil too, to the point that they would stuff an anatomically female person with men because her female parts weren’t there from birth? Some of the wording in your original post kind of points in this direction - when you say they asked you “What genital were you born with?”, questions about surgeries and “Safe around other men or no?”, it sounds like you got woman parts, but the evil pigs were still looking to stuff you with men because those parts weren’t birth-made - unless I totally misunderstood your meaning and intent in those passages, in which case I apologize in advance. But being a post-op woman myself, now I am understandably worried if I would be in danger of treated like a man or stuffed with men in Oregon if some unfortunate encounter with state-sponsored terrorists goes the wrong way.
Youre totally fine, i love peoples interest in my state, no worries!
I am pre op, dunno even if i will go that far yet. I dont want to say too much about it but yes they were asking those questions to figure out where to put me. Lemme clarify that i didnt do anything deserving of this, i just dont talk to police. So it was one persons story against nothing cause i stayed silent, which is what i was always taught to do. In oregon, prisons and jails are segregated by AGAB, and theres not much to be done about that. The regulations for that come from the federal, so blame trump.
So they were asking me those questions to figure out if i can be around men or if i needed to be in solitary, excuse me, “protective custody”.
Afaik you can get gender marker changes and all the other things we want here in oregon. I got hrt the day i had my appointment, no waiting or hoops to jump through. We have a very active and vibrant rainbow community, especially closer to portland. Its beautiful here, and most people are pretty chill with everything
That said oregon still has its own problems. We still have pretty bad schools, the homeless crises is not getting better. Lots of theft because pigs dont carr about it. Etc etc.
No place is perfect. But fo being trans, for me, its the safest place in the country. Not 100% safe, nowhere is, but i do feel it could be much much worse. Just dont interact with police i guess lol
AGAB or genital anatomy? Has there ever been a test case to distinguish between the two? I.e., a case involving very specifically a post-op person who underwent an old-fashioned, 1970s-style 100% sex change?
AGAB, afaik. Idk if i had the other bits if it wouldve been different. But the way they talked about it sounded like mens or solutary no matter what i had