And that’s rude how? I said it with the explicit intention of making it clear the advice is not coming from a women’s experience, so women can decide for themselves wether the advice applies to them.
Remember, I did not know the rules, or the fact I should not comment. Should have I have omitted the fact I’m a man and accidentally pass myself of as a woman?
Precisely because, unlike what you seem to think of me, I actually do care about women and am sensitive to their experiences. I did not want to give potentially bad or dangerous advice to women, so I made it clear multiple times I am not one. I made it clear the advice may not apply. I even thought for a while before making that comment, whether a men’s experience might or not be relevant in this case. But I erred on the side of caution and made it anyway, but with a disclaimer.
That might also be why, potentially, there are comments about the rules made after mine but which I did not read; that along with the fact it took me a while to write and to think of how to explain it.
If I didn’t care, I could have given all the same advice with no disclaimer or mention of the fact I’m a man.
I don’t have all day to sit here and keep this up, so I’ll leave it at that and make the final point that you don’t have to default to rudeness on the internet, which is what most unfortunately do, and one of the reasons I could not stand Reddit anymore when I left. It’s possible to politely tell someone that they did something wrong.
For the record, starting any advice “as a man” when talking to a woman is going to ruffle feathers. It’s presumptuous and rude. As if you being a man gives you more authority to advise women. Especially in a women’s only community - even if we didn’t have the rule “women only”, that advice would be taken poorly here.
You only pretend to respect women. Your actions here have laid bare your true feelings about boundaries that women put up.
I didn’t start out rude to you:
There were over 60 comments when you first replied 2 hours ago. Please don’t lie.
You know the rules here now. You know you’re breaking them now.
I don’t want to continue, but if you speak factual bs you kind of force my hand:
That was not your first comment to me, my inbox shows it as 4th.
Calling someone a liar is objectively rude. As is sending like 4 separate replies to the same comment, all in a condescending tone, and one of them being just a “Uhhh”, which btw was one of the comments which came before that one.
You continue with the boundaries BS. It’s a public forum, and you can block people. You can stop engaging, or you can block.
Saying “as a man” is rude depending on context; if you strip it of context (a warning that my perspective might not be relevant) and decide to take offence, that is on you.
Edit: even when I tried to feed slate and be bice and extend an olive branch you still decide to be rude. You should look at your behaviour more critically
It’s a public forum. Block me. Enforce your boundaries.
I prefer to see when sexists like you are around.
Be rude to someone.
They are rude back.
Call them sexist and a rapist.
Cool story bro.
You were the first to be rude.
“As a man” psshhhhhhhh
And that’s rude how? I said it with the explicit intention of making it clear the advice is not coming from a women’s experience, so women can decide for themselves wether the advice applies to them.
Remember, I did not know the rules, or the fact I should not comment. Should have I have omitted the fact I’m a man and accidentally pass myself of as a woman?
If you didn’t know the rules, why would you start your comment making it clear you’re a man?
Precisely because, unlike what you seem to think of me, I actually do care about women and am sensitive to their experiences. I did not want to give potentially bad or dangerous advice to women, so I made it clear multiple times I am not one. I made it clear the advice may not apply. I even thought for a while before making that comment, whether a men’s experience might or not be relevant in this case. But I erred on the side of caution and made it anyway, but with a disclaimer.
That might also be why, potentially, there are comments about the rules made after mine but which I did not read; that along with the fact it took me a while to write and to think of how to explain it.
If I didn’t care, I could have given all the same advice with no disclaimer or mention of the fact I’m a man.
I don’t have all day to sit here and keep this up, so I’ll leave it at that and make the final point that you don’t have to default to rudeness on the internet, which is what most unfortunately do, and one of the reasons I could not stand Reddit anymore when I left. It’s possible to politely tell someone that they did something wrong.
For the record, starting any advice “as a man” when talking to a woman is going to ruffle feathers. It’s presumptuous and rude. As if you being a man gives you more authority to advise women. Especially in a women’s only community - even if we didn’t have the rule “women only”, that advice would be taken poorly here.
You only pretend to respect women. Your actions here have laid bare your true feelings about boundaries that women put up.
I didn’t start out rude to you:
I don’t want to continue, but if you speak factual bs you kind of force my hand:
That was not your first comment to me, my inbox shows it as 4th.
Calling someone a liar is objectively rude. As is sending like 4 separate replies to the same comment, all in a condescending tone, and one of them being just a “Uhhh”, which btw was one of the comments which came before that one.
You continue with the boundaries BS. It’s a public forum, and you can block people. You can stop engaging, or you can block.
Saying “as a man” is rude depending on context; if you strip it of context (a warning that my perspective might not be relevant) and decide to take offence, that is on you.
Edit: even when I tried to feed slate and be bice and extend an olive branch you still decide to be rude. You should look at your behaviour more critically