Hi everyone. I was wondering if i am the only person who has this: I get kind of annoyed when people comment on what i eat or how much i eat. Regardless if it is consodered healthy or not healthy, much or litte food. I espeacially don’t like being asked things like “why do you eat this?” or comments like “this is bad for x/y”, " you shoud eat more a/b because x/y"
I mean i’m pretty sure that it stems from the ED i used to have about 10 years ago. But i was wondering:
- Are there people without any sings of ED or former ED that still don’t like when people comment on that?
- Why do some people feel entitled to comment or question what others eat in the first place?
Im very interested in options from others. Have a nice weekend anyways :)
Never had an ED, absolutely hate it.
I hate this. I train a lot and a few years ago was microwaving pasta at work and the woman in the kitchen who I HAD NEVER MET BEFORE said in horror “you’re not going to ear all that??” I wasn’t overweight, it was just shitty. I said i trained for a few hours that day and she didn’t even downplay the comment by saying I looked good or anything. And yes years later I’m still pissed.
Women have a horrible time with their weight. We’re too fat or too thin, and it’s ingrained into us that we need to be a certain weight. I had an anorexic friend and whenever we went anywhere with food total strangers would come over and ask if she’d eaten. As if more food pressure was helpful and she was going to say “omg you’re right! My ED is cured thank you!!!”
It’s just so fucking unhelpful and unpleasant
yeah it feels like the whole world is precisely watching what we eat and also feels the need to correct us.
I had to double my body weight to be healthy. Any time someone tries to guilt me over a candy bar or whatever they quickly learn to stfu. You wanna give unsolicited advice? Bet. Now you’re gonna listen to me for the next fifteen minutes about my eating disorder.
Never had an ED and I get shat off when anyone commenta on my food apart from “oooh that looks/smells good”
Unfortunately for them I consider such rudeness on their part means i have free reign to reply in kind
I’ve never had an ED either but comments about my food outside of “that looks good” annoy me too. That’s all anyone should comment in my opinion. I like food so I’m going to eat whatever I want and folks can stfu.
I have never had an eating disorder and I find it infuriating. It’s nobody’s business what I, a full grown adult, chooses to eat. It’s infantilizing.
If someone asks an impertinent question like “why do you eat X?” my general answer is “why do you want to know?” This shuts up about ¾ of them. For the remaining ¼, if they persist, I unleash a tongue lashing on them for being nosy. They quickly learn never to do that again.
For the other unsolicited advice approach, I just start returning unsolicited advice back at them. “You should eat more Y because Z.” “You should probably consider not wearing that shade of brown. It clashes badly with your skin and makes you look like a peach sitting on top of a pile of mulch.”
Yes you are the only person that has ever happened to…
People ask me the same. It is just stuff people like to bring up. Bottom of the barrel Smalltalk.
Either tell the or say something like “not much going in in your life when you have to make my eating habits part of it, hm?”, “you should wear other shoes, those make you ugly”, “your opinion means nothing to me”.
What I’m saying is you don’t have to take it. Make them feel bad for talking about shit that is none off their business.
