• velma@sh.itjust.works
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      12 days ago

      You like it, don’t you? Refusing to listen to women? Forcing them to deal with you, pushing past their boundaries?

              • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netBanned from community
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                12 days ago

                And that’s rude how? I said it with the explicit intention of making it clear the advice is not coming from a women’s experience, so women can decide for themselves wether the advice applies to them.

                Remember, I did not know the rules, or the fact I should not comment. Should have I have omitted the fact I’m a man and accidentally pass myself of as a woman?

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                  12 days ago

                  If you didn’t know the rules, why would you start your comment making it clear you’re a man?

                  • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netBanned from community
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                    12 days ago

                    Precisely because, unlike what you seem to think of me, I actually do care about women and am sensitive to their experiences. I did not want to give potentially bad or dangerous advice to women, so I made it clear multiple times I am not one. I made it clear the advice may not apply. I even thought for a while before making that comment, whether a men’s experience might or not be relevant in this case. But I erred on the side of caution and made it anyway, but with a disclaimer.

                    That might also be why, potentially, there are comments about the rules made after mine but which I did not read; that along with the fact it took me a while to write and to think of how to explain it.

                    If I didn’t care, I could have given all the same advice with no disclaimer or mention of the fact I’m a man.

                    I don’t have all day to sit here and keep this up, so I’ll leave it at that and make the final point that you don’t have to default to rudeness on the internet, which is what most unfortunately do, and one of the reasons I could not stand Reddit anymore when I left. It’s possible to politely tell someone that they did something wrong.