• Wren@lemmy.todayOP
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    Are you sure the woman you’re talking to came to the women’s community to get a man’s advice?

    • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netBanned from community
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      I don’t know. I don’t claim to speak for all women, and I don’t know this community. I was browsing “All” and I saw this. I read the other comment, and thought I could offer some advice from one human to another.

      If I think I might help a woman to suffer less, should I abstain from doing it because men are not welcome? If my advice is ignorant or unhelpful for women, they are free to ignore it. I added a clear disclaimer that my advice might not apply.

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        That’s your problem for not curating your feed.

        You’re not helping anyone. You’re a man in a women’s community giving unsolicited advice to a woman.

        You don’t need a disclaimer, you need to shut up and listen.

        • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netBanned from community
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          The “All” page is a feature and meant to be used. Have you considered maybe it’s your problem your problem for creating a community in a federated system, and then posting in it, where anyone can just bump into your post and interact with it? I don’t even look at the community of most posts which show up.

          I was going to stop commenting and just leave it there, but if you’re gonna decide to be a condescending dick, I can be a dick as well.

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            You agreed to adhere to community specific rules when you made an account.

            Have you considered maybe it’s your problem your problem for creating a community in a federated system, and then posting in it,

            Yeah, it’s women’s problem for having our own community. What the fuck, dude?

            • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netBanned from community
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              No I didn’t? You do know there are different rules for different instances, right?

              Read the whole thing. “All” is feature. People are going to come in not knowing the rules and needing to be informed. If that’s a problem for you and you find it so triggering, you can move to a closed off platform.

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                You’re the only one triggered here bud. We’re where we should be, but you got your feelings hurt so you need to stay and argue about it.

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                    Way to put your problems on women. You’re really helping out with your advice now.

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                    Proving once again that there are men that refuse to do the necessary work and will attack women instead of looking inward.

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                Usually when people break the rules, they are polite and then stop the rule breaking.

                You’re doubling down and insisting on forcing yourself on us.

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                  You were not polite with pointing out the (clearly accidental and easy to make) rule break, why would I be polite? I was polite to the other person and in my original comment.

                  You can block people, and this is an open forum. As long as I’m not blocked, you are by default consenting to me replying and talking to you. It’s how this works.

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                I can see your instance, it’s not secret.

                When going to other communities, respect their rules AND our rules when they are more restrictive. Do not give cause for others to de-federate our instance please.

                Edit: apologies for being blunt, I thought you were The Terrible Humbaba that I was conversing with - regardless, your instance does require you to adhere to community specific rules.

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            Have you considered paying attention? You earned whatever you got here.

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              Ok, and you’ve earned my continued replies by being an asshole 🤷

              If I’m not allowed to comment, then I have nothing to lose by being banned, therefore I’ll keep throwing stones back as they are thrown at me.

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                Where was the stone in that one? Come on. My comebacks were way better than that.

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                  Your comment or mine? You said I earned whatever I got. I called you an asshole. Are you arguing the quality of the insults? I didn’t realise this was a diss battle, or whatever.

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                    You said you were gonna throw stones. I assumed that meant you had some.

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                    Rules…

                    Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.

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                therefore I’ll keep throwing stones back as they are thrown at me.

                Men like you are why I’m such a fucking pain in the ass on this site.

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                    You like it, don’t you? Refusing to listen to women? Forcing them to deal with you, pushing past their boundaries?

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            They had actually defended you elsewhere, but you just can’t help but attack women, can you?

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              Maybe I misunderstood it, but the Lorax is a being that speaks to trees, they seemed to be implying I’m a women Lorax in the mist of two other people throwing stones at me. If it’s not an attack at me, I apologise, but it certainly seemed that way.

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                Rules…

                Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.

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                    You’ve already admitted to being a dick in here. What does it do for you to force yourself on women?

                    Does it give you a thrill?

                    Do you enjoy hearing a woman protest as you push and push and push past every request she’s made of you?

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        It’s always surprised me how many people in the Fediverse will leave comments on a post without reading any of the other comments.

        There’s like…multiple conversations that have happened here that made it clear that we don’t want to hear men’s voices in here.

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          Most of the comments were not here when I saw the post, and noone reads every comment before jumping in.

          And it always surprises me how people can’t just say everything in one comment and must make multiple replies. Does that not qualify as spam? Also, you certainly seem to harbor a lot of resentment against men from your replies, but the rules also talk about not hating groups of people. At least I had the excuse of not knowing the rules when I jumped in. What’s your excuse? I have read the rules now, and have stopped engaging, except to the people making the choice to be rude to me when I simply tried to be helpful to some one who is clearly suffering.

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            Most of the comments were not here when I saw the post,

            There were over 60 comments when you first replied 2 hours ago. Please don’t lie.

            You know the rules here now. You know you’re breaking them now.

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              Were they all talking about men not being allowed? Don’t call people liars just because you’re a fool.

              Yes, I do. I won’t engage with new posts, or to the original person who kindly replied and let me know this was a women only community.

              But in that case I also have nothing to lose from being banned, so why would I be quiet to people choosing to be dicks? If you’re throwing stones, I’m throwing them back. Could have just been like “Hey, maybe you didn’t know but this community is for women only”, and I’d be long gone and you’d have heard nothing from me.

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                There were several conversations about men not being allowed. I will call you a liar because you are lying to try to make yourself look better.

                You look bad here. You’re continuously breaking the rules because why? Your ego is bruised? You don’t want to listen to women?

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        If I think I might help a woman to suffer less, should I abstain from doing it because men are not welcome?

        Yes.