• fun_times@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            2 months ago

            Jesus christ! That’s around the median monthly income in my country. And I come from a rich country.

            My rent is around a fifth of that. Please tell me the $3000-4000 range is at least for a family apartment.

            • Holytimes@sh.itjust.worksBanned from communityEnglish
              51·
              2 months ago

              The majority of America its physically impossible to live by yourself with in an hours drive one way of any reasonable job.

              You either have roommates, work two jobs, work remote and live so far out in bumfuck nowhere your basically a hermit.

              Or you live in glorified squaller.

              • Trainguyrom@reddthat.comEnglish
                2·
                2 months ago

                The average rent in the US is about 1600/mo, and the median household income is 83k/yr. Obviously these averages/medians will change dramatically when looking at individual places, but if you live in a major coastal city that’s infamous for being unaffordable you will absolutely need roommates to afford rent.

                However there’s also plenty of major cities which are not unaffordable so while you can have your eyes pop out of your sockets looking at LA, SF, NYC, etc. Toledo OH or Milwaukee WI are just quietly going on about their day being relatively affordable places to live with plenty healthy local economies

                • hraegsvelmir@ani.socialEnglish
                  11·
                  2 months ago

                  I’ve looked at those sorts of cities, and honestly, it has yet to wind up proving practical once I run the numbers. Yeah, I could move to Indianapolis and have a much nicer apartment for the same money or less, but between wages generally being substantially lower and needing to purchase at least two cars to be able to get around in most of these places, it’s always wound up where I would be tossing the roughly the same percentage of my income away between those two factors.

                  Like, I would be perfectly fine with moving away to a city where I took a paycut, but could afford a comparable apartment with a lower rent and rely on public transit or bike infrastructure to get around safely and quickly, but I haven’t found anywhere that ticks those two boxes yet.

                  It really seems like something that only makes sense if you’re taking an internal transfer and will be keeping your higher salary after moving inland.

              • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
                1·
                2 months ago

                That’s not entirely true. I pay less than $1k per month for my small one bedroom apartment and live within driving distance of a small city that has ok jobs. I’m not exactly thriving but i’m at least treading water.

            • favoredponcho@lemmy.zipEnglish
              1·
              2 months ago

              Yeah, tech jobs easily pay $200k-600k. A bad, low level tech job will still probably pay $120k. Some people are making $1M+, especially couples where both have tech jobs. This is why many people choose to live in California despite the cost of living. That said, if you aren’t in tech, it can be a struggle and that’s where you get people trying to cling to rent-controlled apartments and split rent 6-ways. This polycule is probably in part driven by housing costs and as most of them are young, they haven’t yet come to feel that living with 6 other people fucking sucks.

      • TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        Check “Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult at Sarah Lawrence” - a Hulu documentary series released in 2022.

        Warning: heavy shit. Like, seriously. I can take a lot, but this was a hard pill to swallow.

  • EpeeGnome@feddit.onlineEnglish
    7·
    2 months ago

    I clicked the link and read the whole thing. I still am not sure if this is sincere or satire. It’s so out there that I kind of hope it is real, and that they find what they are looking for.

  • TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    5·
    2 months ago

    The video of Zaid on the website. He blinks a lot while pausing before saying he’s ok. That is a sign people in cults do when they are not ok.

    Also, when a group make a video of a member in which they state they are ok to prove nothing is wrong, it’s a sign something is wrong.

    When they state a member leaving as “defected”, it’s a sign of a cult.

    When they use the word “breeding” for adding children to their group is totally not a red flag lol.

  • curbstickle@anarchist.nexusEnglish
    4·
    2 months ago

    There are so many little things in that link that sends up a little red flag, but this section… Oof.

    Family planning:

    • We would like to have 3-4 kids.
    • We are considering having Melissa breed with Norman or Zaid, and/or Mackenzie with Douglas, as we believe these would be the genetically-optimal combinations. This would likely take place in the next 1-2 years.
    • As you would be a newer addition to the polycule, we would need to get to know you for 2-4 years (depending on good behavior) before considering adding you to the gene pool.
    • remotelove@lemmy.caEnglish
      2·
      2 months ago

      Genetically-optimal? How in the fuck do they determine that? What happens if their spawn is not genetically-optimal? Recycling bin?

      Geezus fuck people are dumb sometimes.

      • boonhet@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        Genetically-optimal? How in the fuck do they determine that?

        Hot and hot = optimal, I’d assume. I haven’t checked the website to see if they have photos of the people or anything.

      • Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        Ugh it smells very american, who ever talks like that any more? Didn’t you pay attention during WW2? 😬

  • Pennomi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    2 months ago

    Yeaaaah, that’s not being polyamorous. There’s no amour anywhere near this group. Just somebody (or somebodies) who wants to manipulate a vulnerable victim.

    There are plenty of great poly people out there who won’t try to steal your money or control your body.

  • SlippiHUD@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    I love how they don’t rule out people who can’t figure out a printed url. I certainly couldnt partner with someone who needs instructions on how to use a link.

    Why wouldnt you just use a qr code?

  • Avicenna@programming.devEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    “We are considering having Melissa breed with Norman or Zaid, and/or Mackenzie with Douglas, as we believe these would be the genetically-optimal combinations. This would likely take place in the next 1-2 years.”

    Wow, I think this just found the field of microeugenics

  • GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    It sounded fun at first, until I started reading the rules. Now it sounds like a chore. I feel like I’d rather go to a job interview than a polycule interview. Nothing against them though, happy they found love!